Age gap advice

[Sausagedog1]

I have two DS's 4 years 4 months and 7 months.
We are trying to decide when to start trying for number 3. I'm 35.
We live in a 2 bed flat and have no prospect of moving till January 2022 which is a consideration because its hard not having any kind of outside space, but when we do move we will have a decent size house.
I was thinking of waiting and having another 3 year gap as I've found this gap quite easy with DS1 being quite independant and now at school, but I'm worried about there being a really large gap between 1 and 3 and making it harder to find things to do with them all at once and also they might be less close growing up.
So should I go for a small gap and just accept we might still be in the flat for a while, or wait longer?! Is a smaller gap really really hard while they are small? I have very little family help, although DH is great but works long hours.

We got pregnant first time with our boys but there is obviously no guarantee and I have miscarried once before too, plus I am getting older.
Just looking for experiences and opinions really
to help us decide.
Thanks

Hey I'd say if you feel now is right go ahead. You will be moving and they will have more space when you do move.
I'm 34 with a 5 and 7 year old both conceived literally after thinking about it so I thought I'd plan the last and I miscarried. That was a huge shock, so if you conceived straightaway and by the time baby is born a year is almost gone and you'd be getting ready to move. I cannot do under 2 years age gap as my babies are demanding lol!

I've only got 2, with a 9 year gap. So far it hasnt been a problem as the little one trails after the big one quite contented. And the big one likes showing the little one how to take part in things.

Personally I would definitely wait, as hid find having insufficient space and several kids crammed in very stressful, and more likely to cause resentment amongst the kids than anything.

Thanks for both your posts, both different views.
Interesting that the 9 year gap still works well, that's nice to hear as you hear a lot of people wanting children as close together as possible it seems.
The flat we live in is quite large, just to give some idea. It's 1300square feet so we're not short on space really, but we have zero outside space which is where I struggle and I think I would really struggle on mat leave again with a newborn and a small toddler.
I'm broody as anything but this baby has been very easy, the first was a completely different kettle of fish!!

@Sausagedog1 I used to live in a similar sized 2 bed apartment when my second was born. We did have a huge balcony but my eldest sometimes wanted to go outside just to run around. He also had a huge amount of Thomas the tank and LEGO so spent ages building them.
We moved into a 4 bed house (1330 sq meters) when youngest was 17 months and eldest was 4.

My first was a baptism of fire; eczema, reflux, allergies, 2 hour wake ups. We figured the next child could not get any worse haha. He was a rubbish sleeper by regular standard but a huge improvement on his brother. No eczema, allergies or reflux. You could still get a similar baby 😁

@HathorX I love the sound of that so cute.

My dp is the eldest and had a sister 3 years younger and a brother 9 years younger. They’re all really close. His sister still played with the little brother when they were young despite the 5.5 year age gap. My own sister is 9 years older than me and we’ve always adored each other.