Hi everyone! I am a new mamma to a gorgeous 10 month old little girl. She is my absolute world. It was a bit of a shock to the system being a new mum but wouldnt change it for the world. My husband and I always wanted 2 children (both have siblings and very close to them and want them same for our daughter). However where we differ is the age gap. My sister and I are 4 years apart (and super close and I definitely mothered her growing up) and he has 1 sibling just under 2 years younger and a sibling 6 years older.
My husband ideal was daughter to be 2-2.5 when 2and baby born where as I was more leaning towards 4 years. We seem to have compromised at around daughter being about 3.5 when 2and baby born (all circumstances being ok) but I feel a bit like worried it will be too exhausting for me having 2 children that young.
My husband concern is that he doesnt want to be an old dad(hes 36 in a few months) and so wants to have the 2and one quicker whereas I have different concerns.
I have a long term health condition where exhaustion plays a big part, so have a great support network,but still find it quite a toll physically. I also have to take into account that my 1st pregnancy I had severe morning sickness with hospital admission so 2and time around I potentially could be out of action but this time with a toddler. Also she is a relatively easy baby in the sense of quite plaid (except for sleeping haha). Were I to have a baby that required extra attention I would worry that may impact my 1st one.
I know having a baby is a joint choice to a degree but am I awful for thinking that fundamentally the choice of timing is slightly more my choice seeing as how I am going to be carrying, giving birth and being the primary care giver?
Thanks
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Husband & I cant agree on baby no.2 age gap.
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Sleeplessmamma · 10/06/2020 15:25
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