Not sure the best place to put this.. I guess it's just to try and clear my head a bit! soon to be ex husband left in December after the discovery of an affair in August, the he choose to continue the affair. His choice in the end he wanted a new easier life.. so he left our family of 4 kids for a woman with 5 from multiple relationships. Go figure. Anyway life is hopefully slowly getting better. He was not a good dad. Uninvolved, lives his own life, literally never done homework, had some care of the kids, dinners etc...
the problem now is how his departure is forcing a split in the children. Two eldest just will not see him. (17,12) the two youngest will as he is choosing be dragged through the courts. They currently see him for 5 hours every other Sunday. He now lives 8 hours away. We are not in the uk anymore..
has anyone else had this happen?? The younger two especially our daughter wants to see him occasionally.. but wants Christmas etc as a "family " at home. All have refused time overnight. We have a mental health social worker about to "hear" their thoughts to give them back to the ex. He has so far refused mediation over the children. He is we think waiting until he "wins" the financial battle. This goes to court next week. Any suggestions how to juggle special days??