Pregnant with 4th child unexpectedly

[Sarahlou1605]

Hi, I'm just looking to vent here! I've just taken a pregnancy test because I'm 3 days late for my period and its come up as a very strong positive. I'm so shocked.
I'm married with 3 children, ds 6 years old, dd 4 and dd 2. My husband and I were NOT trying for a baby, I do not want another child as I have had not nice births with the girls and I'm just done being pregnant.
Oh and there is the whole thing of getting pregnant during a pandemic, I also work for the NHS, which is just something else to add into the mix.

My husband is very supportive and says he will support whatever i choose. I'm just in total shock. We dont have enough space for another child, however husband does have a fairly well paid job so money worries aren't THAT bad. But 4 kids??? How on earth could I cope..

Any experiences with 4th pregnancies here? I'm not really sure what I'm asking for tbh... I'm lost.

Just a thought but if it came up very strong, do you think it could be twins? My fourth pregnancy came up very strong, very quickly and I later learnt that it was identical twins but I'd miscarried one a few days before.

I hope all works out for you. My pregnancy was a real shock.

Dear lord, that really would complicate things wouldnt it!! theres only twins on my maternal side once I believe..
Sorry to hear of your loss.
thankyou. I'm still in denial at the moment I think..

I'm ok with it, actually it was a relief really. I'm an identical twin, my great aunt's were identical twins and I later learnt that she I was having identical girls. It's amazing really. But oh, what a relief to have miscarried one. I hope all works out for you.

I was in denial till week 18. After scan at 20 I told people at work. Everyone was amazed. I've told no one else really. The shock is still with me. I'm very happy as it's a girl after three boys. I never felt driven for a girl but it's a nice to have a change.

Twins are on my maternal side too.

Bless you. I'm just going to absorb this news for a few days and then see what my options are from then on. 4 kids is...alot!
Take care x

I think if financials aren’t a major concern, then four children is amazing. So many benefits. I love our crowd, and they love each other. Contrary to what I expected, they play together in all combinations - oldest / youngest, two oldest / two youngest and sometimes the middle two. And mine are over nine years, so more spread out than yours. Your middle child will no longer be the middle. We always planned four so it wasn’t a shock, but I’m sure when you get your head round it, it’ll be fine. It was my hardest pregnancy by far, but it’s for such a short space of time. Good luck.

Well I'm expecting my 7th child, but number 8 between us, so 4 is easy peasy to me!

Wow! yes 4 must seem like nothing compared to your brood, well done you!
I must say that if we were to continue with the pregnancy,, the fact that I'm nhs coming into contact with patients (gp surgery) during covid 19 does concern me . We have just come out of 14 day isolation as my dd2 had a persistent high temperature for 5 days straight and husband had a cough... it's my first day back at work. Bad timing. Thanks for advice ladies

Hi @Blossom43, how are you getting on?

Hi
I’ve just found out I’m pregnant with my 4th I’m so shocked worried scared and happy all rolled into one .my dh is happy but I have a major anxiety about what people think of me which stems from post natal depression with ds1 aged 10 .this is my 6th pregnancy in total due to miscarriages between my two ds .any advice ds is 6 and ds is 2 as I in utter shock and disbelief Xxx