Unexpected pregnancy no.4

[outnumberedbyboysz]

I need my hand held!

Ok I have 3DS from the ages of 2, 11 & 13 and today I found out I'm expecting no.4

I was booked in for an ablation & sterilisation in March! I had sepsis after DS3 and I'm terrified of getting ill again. All my babies were CS and I'm also scared that my body can cope with another surgery

DP is scared but thrilled. My parents are going to go mad as I nearly died last time & they'll say we are irresponsible to let this happen.

Oh and I'm due to get married in August

Fuck fuck fuck

Tell me your success stories about x4 CS please.... and getting married at 32 weeks PG 😱

My relative was in the same position. 4 DS, CS x 4. They are all grown up/teenagers now and she wouldn't change a thing. She did get sterilised after her DS4 though as she was warned she would be putting her life in danger with another pregnancy. Her boys are all very close. Congrats OP .

Watching this like a hawk. Mainly because I’m wishing my period here.

@Slomi would you mind if I asked you the ages of your relative’s kids? Just to gauge the gaps between births x

My surprise no4 is now 8 months and zonked out on the bed beside me. I was much more closely monitored in pregnancy and birth. No advice about CS. I spent the whole pregnancy panicking but as soon as they arrive that goes and it's just another beautiful baby for the family to love. Plus shedloads more laundry. Everyone is absolutely smitten and baby is spoilt rotten. Good luck deciding, sending you hugs.

@PaulHollywoodsSexGut

They are 24, 22, 18 and 14. The oldest and youngest are actually the closest, the oldest was nearly like a third parent to his youngest brother. I hope that everything works out for you

Thanks for answering @slomi x

Mine are also 13,11 and 2 and all three ended up with c-sections. I am sure you will be closely monitiored and each pregnancy can be different. As I understand it, although could be wrong Sepsis is not something that is more likely to occurr if previously suffered with.

It sounds like you have the full support of your DF so that is great. Plus you already know the chaos of three and how to manage it all. I am sure with the age gaps you have the older two adore the youngest but will be lovely for your youngest to have a similar age aibling.

The wedding will be fine but do you have the option to delay?

We would love a 4th but I don't think it will happen for us.

Good luck!

I'm also pregnant with no.4 my other DC's ages are 5,3,2 and this one will be born the month before my youngest turns three. I'm nervous but excited haven't told anyone IRL yet as waiting for 12 week scan.

Forgot to add all C sections as well so I plan to be sterilised this time

Thank you all so much for your kind replies!

We are feeling much calmer today from talking about it all weekend so it seems we are to be a family of 6! I had a card reading today and the lady pulled out a card which "meant you will be welcoming a new addition into the family' as the future card

No chance about postponing the wedding, just as well is not got the dress yet!

I will definately ask to be sterilised at the CS. 4 kids is madness but I can't imagine going through another CS after that

The youngest will love a younger sibling, I just don't want any of them to feel threatened by another baby. I'm careful to split myself the best I can already, I don't want them to be sad about it

@smashandpeas those are some age gaps!!!

Hope you are okay today.
For the positive - think it will be easier long term for your 2 year old to have a sibling closer in age. I know someone who did this with exactly the same gaps. She almost had two little families and they were all very happy. Hope all works out well for you.

I am expecting number 4, and the consultant raised the suggestion of sterilisation at CS with me (this will be by 3rd CS). I think it is standard now for them to suggest it at 3rd CS.

Good luck with number 4! I'm sure we'll all be fine

Yes I agree it will good for him to have a sibling that is younger. When the older two go to their dad he gets so upset it's heartbreaking. He then wanders around calling them all weekend too

Yep onwards and upwards...4 kids though!!!

We had a very surprise no. 4 who is now 6 months old. I had 4 Cs and was very worried but they took so much care and it was the best CS of them all. Wouldn't change a thing even though I'm sleep deprived! DH is getting the snip.

Thank you all for your kindness. I feel so much better about things now 💖

I have a relative who had four cesareans (despite the doctors warning her against any more after her third). She's fine but apparently she was quite unwell after the fourth one and was in hospital for a while. I was a child so I don't remember the details.

If it's helpful, all four of hers were within six years.

She did also have an operation a couple of years ago to open up and "sort out" her cesarean scar as she was having some residual pain from it (20+ years after the last kid was born). Not meaning to scare you - she had a normal life and didn't suffer chronic pain so far as I'm aware. I think it started to get sore when she got older.