How much should my partner do?

[Roxymummyto5]

We have 5 children (nearly 11, 9, 4 , 2 and 7 months)
My partner works 2 jobs. His main job is 6.30 until 5 , then about 3 evening a week he has a 2nd job 5.30 until 7.30/8ish . Both jobs Mon- Fri so weekends at home.
Im a stay at home mum, with no other help from family with the kids unless I need a babysitter for a school meeting or something.

What in your opinion do you think my partner should do at the weekend to help with the kids/house/cooking etc?

At the weekend you should be doing 50/50. He has two jobs which is a nightmare but you have 5 kids to look after which is also a nightmare (actually a bigger nightmare IMO). You don’t get to only work 9-5 do you? Anyone crazy enough to have 5 kids shouldn’t expect days off.

You decided to have children that you couldn’t afford so the consequence is a lot of hard work for both of you.

You should do main Monday to Friday stuff and weekend stuff shared such as washing and activities

You decided to have children that you couldn’t afford so the consequence is a lot of hard work for both of you.
That’s incredibly rude and not true. They can afford their five children and are working very hard to provide for them.
Neither are they crazy!

Thank you for your replies.
I completely agree it should be 50/50. My partner does help at the weekend but I don't feel it's enough.

He also doesn't have to work 2 jobs, we would get by on one job but the extra money helps and means we can do more!

@MyDcAreMarvel working two jobs so they have enough money to do normal things doesn’t sound to me like it’s affordable.

Agree.

When he's at home especially weekends it should be 50/50.

Have you talked to him about it? Does he feel he's doing enough?

@user1480880826 the op said the second job is for the extras. Clearly they can afford more than most as many people have two full time jobs per family. They can afford not to need to do that.

I’m a sahm to 3 children and my husband is self employed so works 70+ hrs a week. I do mostly everything in the house, and I really don’t expect him to as he is so busy. We made a choice for me to stay at home and I feel it’s my ‘job’ to look after the children most of the time and keep the house, and I’m completely happy with that. Don’t get me wrong If I asked if he could do something he would. He puts the bins out 😂 and empties the dishwasher first thing in then morning before work.

Hannah, does your husband help on his days off? What about time for yourself?

He only really has a Sunday off, and we just don’t do much on those days in the way of cleaning and have a family day. My eldest two are at school which helps during the week as my youngest naps and my mil sometimes comes out one of the weekdays and I get a couple of hours to myself 🙂

Could you swap out so you do the evening job 3 days and he does three evenings a week at home without you?

I find, for the most part, dad's only truly appreciate how difficult it is when they get left to do it.