Please tell me it gets easier with 4!

[Browneyes40]

I have a lovely 7 week old, slightly unexpectedly, and 3 others aged 6,8 and 10. Baby seems constantly exhausted, and will only settle when juggling in front carrier, and still feeding ++ at night. I am exhausted and overwhelmed constantly. My parents are helping out where they can, husband works long hours, and the demands all feel too much. I know it will get easier, but can anyone who has been there reassure me!!

The fourth baby was no trouble at all , the trouble started with puberty, sorry

Hi.’I just wanted to write as I feel for you! I have a 12 week / 3 /5 and 7 year old. The baby also only sleeps in sling on me while bobbing and am overwhelmed a lot of the time. Husband out 7-8pm I the week. It’s tough isn it ? The hardest thing I’ve found is feeling like a total weirdo for having 4 and having no company. Moan at me all you want - can’t tell you it gets easier but bloody hope so ! Well done so far x

I struggled to adjust to 4. It did get better and I got used to it xx

I also found it hard. You will know that babies are so different. I had two which slept and slept and two who didn't. Unfortunately no4 was very wakeful and tearful. I was also only just producing enough milk to keep no4 alive. I probably should have supplemented but felt I had to do the same EBF as I had for the siblings. It did get easier and the older ones can help carry bags and things as they all get older.

No4 was a demanding child throughout but is now a perfectly well adjusted adult who is much loved but I do remember it being hard and if I could have ordered them I might have had them in a different order!

Congratulations!

My 4th dc (also slightly unexpected, but nevertheless very welcome) just turned 1. My others are 7, 5 and 3. It's been a very tough year, honestly. Wonderful, and I wouldn't change it, and in the long run I know I will never regret it. Just absolutely incessant and exhausting! However, now that the baby is a year old and newly sleeping through most nights it is suddenly all starting to feel a lot more manageable.

So, I would say, yes, it's very hard to begin with but take every shortcut you possibly can and hang in there - it WILL get better! Good luck.

I have 4 they are 9 7 5 and 3 and fuck me it was and still is hard work. I was unfazed by the caring for baby bit as that was easy and he is a great easy going baby, but as the other 3 have got older they are more difficult, more homework and clubs. Back chat is quite common in our house. I do love them though and it gets easier when your baby starts to toilet train, not need a buggy and can be left for a few mins whilst do the washing or dinner etc.

I have 4, all girls they are 11, 9, 8 and 5 and bugger me its hard work but so rewarding.
Hang in there it does get better, surround yourself with support and make sure you have at least 1 hot brew once a day
You'll be fine xxx

And here I am wondering if i could cope with 3! How do you ladies do it?!