Coming to terms with not having another

[lucieloos]

Anybody really, desperately really want a 3rd, 4th etc but for whatever reason not able to? How do you come to terms with it? Does it get easier?

This is me. Although I have 9 incredible kids, I have always had age 40 as my cut off as I will have my tubes and ovaries removed then (high risk for cancer).
I have been single apart from a brief relationship for a while and I don't believe the next 3 years leaves me enough time to meet someone and be together long enough/ be ready to have another child (or want to ever for that matter). Despite knowing logically/practically that it cant happen I can't help but feel sad and pine after what possibly could have been.
I don't think I will ever feel utter 'done' so to speak as I feel an overwhelming instinct to have another. It is bizarre but I am coming to terms with it- albeit slowly.

I’m following this with interest. I have one but my partner has 3, so we have 4 in total and I love having all 4 kids together and am very broody for another to make it 5.
We’re definitely not far enough into our relationship to have a baby yet anyway, but he’s also fairly sure he’s done and doesn’t want more. I’m trying to come to terms with that, but I honestly just seem to be getting broodier so it’s not working. I’m early 30s so plenty of time in theory but I think that makes it worse 2bh.