21 & debating on a third baby.

[Youngmama228]

I'm 21, have DS 2& a half, DD 8months. Been with my almost DH for over 8 years, he works a good job, earning on the much higher end. I stay at home with the children.
We've always said we wanted 5/6 children.
I know we could have more when we're older but I'd like to just be done having kids and not wait till we're 30 to have another.
But now were debating to stop at two, makes holidays easier, don't need to move to a bigger house, get a bigger car etc. How did everyone cope with 3, was it abit of a regret having a third?

Veterinary care assistant, whilst noble and worthwhile, doesn’t pay much and won’t support you and your kids should the worst happen. It’s pretty much the most basic of the professional roles in that area. If it’s a role and an area you like, I’d build on that rather than rush to add more children to the mix. I’d advise that whether you were 21 or 31, tbh.

Id wait a while. Good for your security you are getting married.

Many women have posted on here about how their DH has left them after many years and they are screwed with no career or money to speak of.

As you aren’t working you will have no pension apart from the state pension (If it exists by the time you retire)! if you don’t start a private one soon, preferably with an employer as they contribute too. You need to pay in for 40 years to have a half decent sum in old age. So you do really need to start soon.

Your qualification may be relevant now but there are new discoveries in medicine all the time. Which will mean you could have to retrain to some degree before working.

A lot to think about.

I agree with @dogandcatperson - The fact you have worked as an ACA for a year or two in the past in no way guarantees easy access to a good position in the future. We have a lot of applicants for every position. The hours are long and often unsociable and the pay is usually very close to NMW.

People will often tell you to wait but when you get older it's harder to get pregnant and you may find it takes a couple of years after deciding to have another and the reality of actually having a baby.
I waited after my first until he started school and now there's a 16 year age gap because we struggled with the second and suffered mc's even though I fell quickly first time and then along came dc3 a year later, I'm just saying it's not always a case of choosing the perfect time.
If you want another baby have one.