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I want 4th baby, husband does't

29 replies

NoisyFireEngine · 19/10/2019 16:06

Not sure if I am looking for an advice or just want to talk about it. Feeling sad as I have nobody to talk about this because my friends and family say I am bonkers for even mentioning another baby.
Me and husband have 3 kids aged 7, 4 and 1. I am very grateful for having my 3 but the more I think about it the more I realise I would like another one. Don't feel like I am 'done' or 'finished'. Can't help but think I would regret if I didn't at least try for one more and I would always look at my 3 kids and think there could be another one but there isn't.
Here's the problem - my husband doesn't want any more. There is no way I could convince him to try for one more as he wasn't keen on having a third child. He agreed eventually because he knew how much I wanted it. Now that baby is here he loves him dearly but it took him a while to get his head round the fact there will be 3 kids in the house.
There is no reason why we could't have one more apart from the fact my husband doesn't want one. Financially we can afford it, plenty of space for everyone in the house and in the car, I have kept all the baby/maternity stuff. I am at home staying parent so it would be mostly me looking after children like I already do. I feel confident I could manage another one, I look at my youngest one and I just can't believe this is it.

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Kyriesmum1 · 11/11/2019 09:56

I have 3 birth children and hubby didn't want us to have anymore, mostly because apparently I'm an awful bitch when pregnant 😂 our youngest is twelve now and I love being around children so we decided to foster. We have been doing this job for 4 years now and we are just at the end of the process of adopting one of our foster children!! Never ever thought we would adopt a child but she is ours and couldn't bring ourselves round to the idea of moving her on! Maybe give hubby time. You don't need to have another child right now so maybe look at alternatives such as childminding or fostering to get your 'child fix' and see what happens. X

HB2022 · 23/10/2023 20:35

Hey did you decide to have a 4th baby? We have a very similar story. I have 3 and long for a 4th baby. Always dreamt of having 4 and my husband has now changed his mind.

Jw913 · 04/12/2023 18:03

What did you end up deciding? I feel like I am in a similar situation.

Maxlot19 · 20/12/2023 23:16

I have three children nearly a year apart, my youngest is 2 on the 1st of January.

I truly want another with the same father but he got a vescotomy. I asked him to see his options but he said no.

I am full of anger and upset I don’t know what is the best for me and my family. He has clearly remarked he only stays for the family but I want another I always want four and he knew that.

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