Why are 4 kids easier than 3?

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We are currently ttc #4 and have seen several threads where people have said going from 3-4 kids is easier than 2-3. I was just wondering for what reasons is it easier adding more kids into the mix?

@eastertulip that all sound ace for hours 24 to 35 of each day!

Mine are all over 18 now so it’s a different dynamic , I have 5 as number 4 was twins , so 5 under the age of 6 when my twins were born , not sure how but we all survived , yes you have to be a bit more relaxed ( no cleaner for me ) I was sahm and my dh worked shifts but between us ( with a tiny amount of help from grandparents ) we managed to cover all the essentials and a bit more !
2 have graduated uni , one is mid way through studying at uni and the twins hopefully both go to uni in September ,
As they get older the challenges change but I found the hardest change was from 1 to 2 dc, after that I guess experience is on your side .

We had 4 under 5, the hardest change for me was 1-2, I struggled so badly with that! But after that they slotted in, having the fourth means we pair them off (not always the same pairs) for walking and holding parents hands if together, buddy system for days out etc. They’re between 2 and 7 now so still in the middle of the chaos but getting easier to go out and do more now. Finding my house is cleaner and more organised with 4 as it has to be but also they like to do their own things together and I’m left alone, so we now have a dog who actually likes my company

I'm one of four and i have three myself.

I think i'm spread as thinly as i can be - i don't get nearly enough 1:1 time with my dcs as it is- god help them if i had another. But then i'm a lp.

I'm from quite a dysfunctional family and being one of 4 did not help. I guess everyone's circumstances are different.

I don't think 4 is easier than 3, but the transition from 3 to 4 is easier than the transition from 2 to 3. Imo. I found going from 2 to 3 the hardest time, something to do with not having enough hands for all of them. By the time you are going to 4, you have adapted to not having enough hands. Plus, once you have 4, they can pair off if they want to. Over the years (mine are nearly all adults now) I have enjoyed watching the different pairings at different stages.