Second Baby worries.....

[Newmum26]

We have a DS who is 20 months old and we always said we wanted two children.
I'm feeling mixed feelings, we devote all our time to our son and do so much with him, take him places, baby groups, classes play toys read books etc. I'm a SAHM and love it.
Husband wants to start trying for baby number 2 soon as we always said we didn't want too big an age gap.
I want another baby, a brother or sister for our little boy and to make us a family of 4 but I am worried about so many things it's holding me back 😟
I worry how will we love another baby as much as we love DS?
How will DS react having to share us and our time, will he learn?
Any advice or experiences greatly appreciated ☺️

I have two with a small(ish) age gap of 15 months.
I thought everything that you have posted, I loved DC1 with all of my heart, could I extend that to a second? Turns out it just isn't an issue, my children are both so very different and I love those differences.
I also found that I was well practiced getting out and about with my young toddler so I just chucked the baby in a sling and she came everywhere I did - the going places is only a pain now she's on solids and I can't just breastfeed as I have to pack twice as much food and as one is still napping and the other has just about dropped that they're on slightly different schedules, which is a faff.
It is hard adjusting to two but baby will have to fit in around your older one (so may be left to cry for a little longer here and there) and it's tough dealing with the sleepless nights and having to be firing on all cylinders for a demanding toddler the next day - no luxury of sleeping when the baby does but it does get easier past the fourth trimester stuff. But it is fantastic. Overwhelmingly fantastic. (So much so I'd love a third...

I felt the same. Our second is 4 months. Our eldest who has always been fairly demanding in terms of attention finds it hard at times but she also loves her little sister.

I know you know this anyway but you will love a second just as much. Twice the love, twice the worry!

The youngest gets to experience things through your eldest and learn from them too. I have enjoyed second time round much more as feel less pressure and less of a learning curve.

This could be me writing that post. I completely share all of your anxieties and at the moment am very torn about what to do. It doesn't help that my husband really wants a second child and is starting to unconsciously put the pressure on with the comments he makes about when we should start trying again.

I had twins first babies. Trust me, you will adore both equally. You will be busier. Your eldest will have to suck it up basically! It won't do him any harm.