Why do I keep wanting more?

[ruthieruthuk]

I currently have 5 children all of a young age, my eldest is 5 and my youngest is a few days old.

Eldest four children have SEN so life is pretty hard going with them at times however I'm sat here thinking about the idea of a 6th child one day and how I'm looking forward to being pregnant again even though I've never had easy pregnancies due to SPD.

Hubby is against it at the moment so it won't be happening but I can't seem to shake this feeling. Have I lost the plot?

If a newborn doesn't stop the feeling then it's not about babies. The older ones don't so it's not about children. So what is it about?

When you think about the 6th, what are you thinking about?

TBH I'd think about counselling to try to find out.

I’m a bit the same tbh. I lost my eldest dc to stillbirth and had 4 more pretty quickly, having the last at 40. I have two dc with ASD and life is very challenging. When I had dc5, I decided to get sterilised as I’d had 4 cs and every pregnancy involved having a cervical stitch, hospital stay, high risk. Still now, at 47, I constantly want another child! The feeling just doesn’t leave!

If practically you know you’re done, I’d accept that you’ll always want more but still look at more permanent contraception. I’m not sure if your age, but that cinched it for me. I focus on the positives of actually having the 4 I’ve got, especially when after losing my first we were told we may never be able to have live children.

In reality, I know 2 of my dc are going to need lots of support and scaffolding over and above that if my other dc just to achieve the ‘normal’ things in life. I focus on that, and doing the best job I can.

Btw, I do think it’s a biological urge. My eldest dc is 12 and I can truly say I’ve loved every age they’ve been at, so it’s not a baby thing. I love seeing the people they are growing up into and absolutely love the whole motherhood journey.

Goodness OP, I would ignore it. With respect, you have your hands full. It will get even more challenging and busier as your little ones start school.

Congrats on the new baby