Tell me all the positives about having a large family/4 kids.

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I have 3 DC aged 10, 3 and 2. We had MMC with baby #4 in March and I was devastated. My DH did not want to TTC immediately after the miscarriage because we were moving house and he wanted to "get settled". If I'm honest I thought he was just making excuses and wasn't keen to TTC again. So my mindset had been very much to play up the positives of having 3, my youngest being nearly out of nappies, getting good sleep, will be easier going on planes this coming summer etc.

DH decided (to my surprise) that he was ready to TTC last month and I got my BFP this morning . I'm trying not to get too carried away until after the 12 wk scan after what happened earlier in the year.

Anyway can people please tell me what they love about having a large family? I'd like to hear all the positives!

I have four aged 13,8,5 and 4. I love it now in the early days it was hard buts it's much easier now.
They house is full of laughter (and shouting!)
It's lovely when they all play together
On holidays they have ready made play mates
They are happy to run off and play and are confident to start big games with other kids
They really are good mates.
Congratulations by the way

Thank you . That's lovely to hear. I have always wanted a big family. Crossing everything that all goes ok with this pregnancy.

Mum of four, 8,5,2,1/2.

Pros are that kids play together, become independent (on account of parental neglect) and will have each other for life.

Also, I feel like I am DONE - wasn’t sure about a forth and it happened- if I had three I’d still be considering a forth until it was too late to have another baby. So it’s nice not to be thinking about that.

Oh and another pro is I had some grim birth experiences and went all out to have a lovely calm water birth for baby number 4 and we managed it. So it’s good to close the womb with a positive experience.

Congrats and good luck!

Mum of 5 here, wouldn't have it any other way! The noise, oh the noise, constant chatter, you have subtitles on as standard. Washer always on, never any food despite however much you buy, mess behind you as you clear up, vacuum on 8 times a day, hands look like they belong to an old woman etc., money - haha. I bloody love it.

Always someone telling you they love you, there is always a proud smiley face showing you what they have done, you will never run out of letters telling you you're the best mum in the world, hugs on tap, you are the fountain of all knowledge, you know all the kid slang, always laughter. As they get older you turn into a confidant, a shoulder to cry on, someone to bounce ideas off because you don't embarrass them and this all eventually leads into a very close and special friendship.

If it feels right, do it.

I like your description, Ratarse. Sounds very happy. Who needs smooth hands and money anyway.....?

I love how many different combinations they can play in, and how the different personalities result in all kinds of different ideas and adventures!

I also love that if one of them is having a difficult time at school with friends they know they still have a huge family that they are part of, so friendship falling outs aren’t the end of the world.

I love the bit noisy meal times and the times when there seems to be activity in every corner of the house.

I bloody hate the school run chaos though

I grew up as one of four children too and it was a very happy childhood, always someone to play with, but you could always get peace if you wanted it too because your sibling could go and annoy another one

I grew up one of 4 and had a very close bond with my siblings. I loved being part of a large family. I now have 3 dc and would like a 4th

I am expecting dc5 in august

Dc are currently 11, 9, 5 and 2!

At the moment it works fairly well as they pair off a lot, big two and little two. I am a bit unsure of how the dynamic will change when 5 arrives!