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Should I have a 3rd dc?

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Ohwhattodonow · 05/06/2018 22:09

Looking for some advice from everyone. I have 2 dc one 4 1/2 and one almost 10. We currently live in a 2 bedroom house so dc share a room. We are looking into building an extention (if we get planning permission and a loan to do so). Mainly because my oldest dc has been talking about having his own room. My problem is I recently have been desperate to have another child, I just can't get it out my head. I always wanted a bigger family. Partner is quite happy to have another. He lives life by, jump into things and deal with the consequences later. I, on the other hand am not like this, I worry endlessly.
We are by no means "well off" but we live a decent life, can afford to buy what we need and extras, have a couple of holidays (not expensive ones) a year.
Everything is telling me not to have a child because we will have less money, I'm worried something will stop us extending our house, my work is quite unreliable money wise, and the list goes on but I think if I don't bite the bullet and have another dc I will regret it later.
Need some words of wisdom from people that have been through similar situations. I'm so confused!

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MadeForThis · 05/06/2018 22:18

No words of wisdom however I am also deciding about a dc3. Dc2 is only 5 months though. I'm 38 so it's an age thing with me. Worried about risks. Spreading both time and finances among 3.

What sort of age are you? What age gap would you like between dc.

How happy would current dc be to continue to share rooms or could the extension cover two bedrooms?

Timeisslipingaway · 05/06/2018 23:03

I'm 28, I wouldn't really like there to be too much more of an age gap.

We are hoping to extend on to the kitchen to make an open plan livingroom/kitchen, this wpuld allow us to turn our current living room into a bedroom (for 2 dc to share, if we have another), can also potentially split that room into 2 as it is quite large, wpuld make 2 small rooms.
What is your living situation?
If we can extend, my main worry will be money. I would probably have to cut back the workload with a new baby ( No maternity leave as I'm self employed) so this may cause a problem.

Are you thinking of TTC now? Or wpuld you wait?

Timeisslipingaway · 05/06/2018 23:07

Sorry name changed 😂

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