Planning baby number 5 (and possibly 6)

[CamdenTownie]

Hi,

I'm a 38 year old Mum of four, eldest is 21 and no longer living at home, youngest is 10.

Dh and I have very recently decided that we will start ttc #5, obviously there will be a big age gap of at least 11 years so we've decided that if successful we will ttc #6 almost immediately after number 5, this is mostly due to my age, ideally we'd have two more by the time I'm 40/41, I fully understand that it may not happen at all, but we can only try!

Anyone else have an age gap of 10+ years? It's my only concern and I'm now a bit as to why we waited so long and didn't ttc sooner(about 5 years ago) if anyone has any positive large age gap experiences I'd love to hear them.

I have 9 years between dc1&2 and 10 years between 1&3. Lots of positives when they were little, she was very helpful, I got to do toddlers groups etc while she was at school, and the school run helped with routine. The teenage years have been very hard though with a lot of issues, but that doesn’t happen to everyone I’m sure!
We are currently ttc #4, been trying since last July, with an early loss in April. I’m 38 too, rapidly approaching 39! The age gap will be 8 years now from the youngest and wish we had started much much sooner but took all this time to agree!

Ds was 6 when ds was born (I was 43) unfortunately ttc again resulted in mc at 8 weeks and no sniff of a bfp for 2 years. The boys get along amazingly for such a big gap at 3+9.