What age gap do you have between two children?

[Newmum26]

We have a little boy who is 1 in two weeks.
We want another baby and know we both want just 2 in total.
But we are in sure if the age gap in between the two?
We want to enjoy him first, but is there pros and cons for a shorter or longer age gap?
Please share your stories with me ☺️

I think you would get lots more responses if you posted in chat. This board is pretty quiet!

In answer to your question, I have a 19 month age gap between two of my children and they fight like cat and dog! Bigger age gaps might mean less of this? Also, if you waited until your son was preschool age you'd save money on childcare if you work.

I got pregnant with my DS when my daughter was 14 months and i think its a great age gap

I’m in a situation and part of me want them little together as I don’t want to be changing nappies for too many years and figured I have one so may as well have another. We’re aiming for a 2-3 year gap.

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I have 19mths between 1 and 2 and 15 mths between 2 and 3. I think the smaller gap is great as they are one after the other for school etc. Clothes are interchangeable. Yes they (all) fight but I can see their closeness too. My 4th is after 2 yrs exactly and he’s quite separate to the other 3. I think he’ll always be the baby due to the bigger gap.

2 yrs,2yrs,2yrs,3yrs and then this one will be 5yrs between youngest 2 and 12 between oldest 😊

5 1/2 years between first and second 4 1/2 years between second and third. I love my gaps tbh though understand it wouldn't suit everyone and the gap between the first two was about a year longer than planned due to miscarriage. They all get on really well and have never fought as nobody is competing, they are all secure in their place in the family. Eldest no longer lives at home but I have one still in secondary school and one in Uni so "letting go" of my eldest who I am very close to was easier. It felt like each child got a lot of individual time. I didn't start young either.

Had DD when DS1 was 5 and found out I was pregnant with DS2 when DD was 15 weeks old! He arrived at 38 weeks which was 5 weeks exactly before DD's first birthday. Also then had DS3 when DS2 was 4.

So I have quite large gaps between my firstborn and lastborn and their siblings and a teeny gap of just under 11 months between the middle 2...

I would never advise anybody to have babies "back to back" as I did as it was the most difficult year or so ever as you are dealing with 2 babies at very different developmental stages who are both still very demanding. It was very hard.

That said, I also think that the larger agegaps of 4 or 5 years I also have are not ideal either as the DC are all into different things and it can be difficult to entertain them all at the same time.

In an ideal world I think I would have preferred to have 2 year gaps between DC.

6 year difference with my two