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Difficulty conceiving third child

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Donnabettyboo · 20/04/2018 19:13

So I'm 30 and have two daughters (2 and 4). I was diagnosed with PCOS at 23 and was told I'd have difficulty having children. Luckily I have been blessed with my two girls and conceived quickly both times (trying for 5 months and 8 weeks before falling pregnant).
In January 2017 I had a very early miscarriage. The pregnancy wasn't planned and I lost it very soon after finding out.
My husband and myself stopped using contraception in May 2017 and have actively been trying for a baby since September 2017.
I have spoke to my doctor and they've basically told me, I appear to be very fertile and I would not be given any assistance or investigations to conceive and basically to be grateful with that I have and 'if it happens, it happens.
I hate that phrase and I hate sounding like I don't appreciate my girls because I absolutely worship those little ladies but I can't stop thinking about having a third.
I just can't help feeling like I'm failing my husband by not falling pregnant again as easily as last times and now we both seem a bit exhausted by it all and we seem disconnected I suppose.
How do people cope with these feelings? I'm trying hard not to over think it but I'm a worrier and do have a history of depression so I'm struggling

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Raver84 · 20/04/2018 20:15

I have pcos and each pregnancy was conceived with fertility drugs. I have 4 children and have had 2 losses.

However my last baby was a total natural surprise . I had lost a baby a few months before and decided to give up sugar randomly. Once I gave up sugar my pcos corrected itself . Have you tried to control pcos this way as it does help. also high dose agnus castus helped . Good luck with ttc.

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