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Grandparents as guests

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hlr1987 · 20/12/2017 09:24

Just curious, how old were your kids before grandparents stopped coming to stay every 6weeks to see them? No sign of any other grandchildren from other siblings for a while (maybe ever).

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MaidenMotherCrone · 20/12/2017 09:43

They never came to stayGrin

Psychobabble123 · 20/12/2017 09:45

Sorry what now?! Every 6 weeks?! Shock Nope, not here either OP

HRTpatch · 20/12/2017 09:46

What world is this?

inchyrablue · 20/12/2017 09:46

It stopped more because of their old age and frailty/death, not because the DC got to a certain age in our experience.

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hlr1987 · 20/12/2017 10:08

Maybe I should just appreciate it!

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Luckingfovely · 20/12/2017 10:14

What? This is not normal Grin Precisely never..

ImAMarshmellow · 20/12/2017 10:15

We saw our grandparents every week until they passed away.

I genuinely believe if they were still alive I would still go and see them every Saturday and sit and eat a bowl of ice cream on the stool next to grandads chair

notangelinajolie · 20/12/2017 10:37

Never, we all lived in the same village. Sorry unhelpful Grin

My elderly uncle who lived further away used to come and stay once a year and we would all go and visit him a couple of times a year. The last time before he passed away the kids were 16,14 & 8. Not sure what kids age have anything to do with it? He was still kids great uncle no matter what ages they were and it was lovely to see him. Staying over was because
it was too far to go and come back the same day.

AppleKatie · 20/12/2017 10:40

Yeah this has literally never happened in my experience either.

Sounds nice if a little claustrophobic though!

firawla · 20/12/2017 10:41

Never and I would hate that!

ValentinaCat · 20/12/2017 10:41

We still go to stay over at mine with DD every 6 weeks or so. She's nearly 2.

ZigZagandDustin · 20/12/2017 22:05

My mum comes probably every 6-8 weeks. They live 4 hrs away but she comes when I need her help and if nothing is going on that I need her, she comes anyway as she misses them (and me I guess!). Dad only comes sometimes as he is involved in a load of ad hoc things.

imip · 22/12/2017 19:02

Never, they all live on the other side of the world!

My mum came out for 3 of my birthday for baby sitting, and one when my eldest dd was stillborn.

imip · 22/12/2017 19:02

Births, not birthdays!

Timefor2 · 22/12/2017 19:14

I'm really interested that so many of you say never, is that because you live near your parents/in laws? How often do you see them? Every 3-4 weeks here, normally one or two nights. We very rarely stay with them and they live a few hours away if that makes a difference?

idontlikealdi · 22/12/2017 19:48

Mine are theirs nearly every day - they don’t stay for that reason and the only live up the road!

harrietm87 · 23/12/2017 10:30

My mum lives a short flight away (in Ireland, I'm in London) and inlaws about 4 hrs drive away (up north). I'm pregnant with first grandchild for all of them and definitely expecting to see them all at least every 6 weeks if not more than that. I want our baby to have a relationship with its grandparents! Luckily we all get on very well.

yaela123 · 01/01/2018 12:24

They never stay with us but DC go to stay with PILs for 1-3 nights every 1-2 months. Well not all the DC at once (I have 6) and DS17 doesn't anymore but 2-4 of them at once usually, sometimes their cousins are there too so it's nice for them to see them. But they are only a 40 min drive away.

My mum comes to stay with us for a couple of nights every 2 months or so but thats usually mainly because she is coming to London (where we live - she doesn't) anyway. She came more regularly once a month before DC started school.

(DC are 17, 15, 11, 7 and twins age 6 btw)

Dontbuymeroses · 01/01/2018 14:57

My freind has this, her parents come and stay when she has stuff going on and needs a hand. It seems to work really well.

My parents don't do the same as they live close, they are here or we are there usually weekly. I suppose it may sound claustrophobic to some but my OH is often not very available (emotionally or otherwise) so I'm very glad of the help.

NerrSnerr · 01/01/2018 15:05

Our eldest is 3.5. My dad comes to stay nearby (in a camper van) about 3 times a year. My mum has stayed with us twice and once in a hotel. My inlaws live 90 minutes away we see them every 6 weeks or so but never stay over at ours or there.

ProfYaffle · 01/01/2018 15:12

My eldest is almost 14 and my parents still come and stay. They live 250 miles away, pil not really interested so they're our only source of support. We've had a run of various illnesses/surgery etc over the last 18 months and Mum has stayed with us and helped on several occasions.

It's not as strictly timetabled as it was when the dc were little though.

Aragog · 01/01/2018 15:18

My parents and pils never come and stay over. They live about 45 min away and visit within the day or evening, for a few hours at a time. Or we visit them again leaving the same day. Sometimes teen Dd goes and stays over with them - maybe if we are going away overnight or if she just fancies it to see them on her own. Seem them about once a month or so.

bakingaddict · 01/01/2018 15:22

My MIL comes and stays every 2 - 3 weeks usually coming on a Friday and stays till Monday. FIL less often probably every 2 months. They live an hours drive away and my two are 6 and 10. MIL has done this since eldest was born

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