Three?

[Redpramlady]

So firstly I will apologise for my ramble in advance.

Recently decided that we will stick at two children we have one of each. This has gone from a decision of wanting third to not for these reasons

One - my husbands job allows him to travel to amazing places around the world. This year we get to go too hurrah. With three this would be a lot more expensive and we probably would be able to go. Not sure I can sorry on seeing him travel around without us. (Selfish maybe)

Two- my two are happy at the moment. Eldest has asd and they are close in age making activities easier they enjoy the same things. How do people manage a bigger age gap with things to do? Mine are two and four ATM

Three- sometimes I'm at my wits end already ha! Body feels knackered


But

The pang or a larger family gets me every time. Mainly when they are older having a support network and just having that larger family tribe. I'm an only child my husband from a larger family

Anyway my point is I'm neve sure what the right decision is. Wish I had a crystal ball. I really don't want to grow old wondering what if or having the regret.


Any wisdom and it my way!

[TabbyTigger]

I was from a huge family (1 of 9!) with lots of small age gaps, so I was the very middle child and none of my siblings were more than 6 years older/younger! I loved it and I am so grateful for all of my siblings, we’re still so close. But obviously it doesn’t always work that well!

I now have 5, soon to be 6. It’s definitely a juggling act, but I think the big age gaps have really helped me. Mine are 18, 13, 12, 5, 2, and due end of February! It doesn’t sound like having a baby now would make sense for you or your family, but that doesn’t mean you have to totally rule it out - I got on just as well with my siblings who were 5/6 years older than me as those who were just a year older. The ones I’m closest to now are my oldest sister (almost 7 years older), my sister who’s only a year older, my sister who’s 2 years younger and my brother who’s 5 years younger. Mine also all get along despite the big age gaps - the other day my 12yo and 5yo were playing together and my 13yo and 2yo were playing together. I wouldn’t worry if you don’t have one now but decided in 2+ years that your family is more ready for a third.

[Wallywobbles]

I talked to my eldest DD last night who said she quite likes it which surprised me. She says she loves having loads of cousins and hopes it'll be good for her kids that way. 11 on my side and 6 on DHs.

[Redpramlady]

Thank you both very much for responding in such great depth much appreciated
So, I was in town today, slightly sobbing under my sunglasses
I don't know why I have this now or never feeling
I think is partly because I really can't keep thinking about it, it's always in my mind!
I'm an only child and although I'm rich in friends I can see how much more it becomes a challenge in later life what with my mother also being an only child . Think I'm longing for a bigger unit maybe.

[Redpramlady]

Tabbytigger

One of my biggest worries is the age gaps, so lovely to know that hasn't effected your bond with siblings, I have no experience of having siblings so try to wok out everything in my own head! Thank you

[Redpramlady]

So I'm now expecting #3' decision made!

[MaidenMotherCrone]

Congratulations Op.

My number 3 is away at Uni and he is missed by us all. Easter break cannot come quickly enough .

My 3 are very close friends with 2 years inbetween each one. If I had the choice of winning the lottery or raising my boys all over again I wouldn't take the money.

[Redpramlady]

Aw that's so lovely maiden