No3 but had bad PGP and getting old

[Daytona79]

So I'm 38 in December I have a dad 9 month old and a do who will be 3 in September. I'd love a girl but if it was a boy that would be ok too

My head is holding me back and here is why

I suffered from quite bad pelvic pain (12 weeks fist time and from 8 weeks 2nd time ) due to a old pelvic injury

Realistically how will I cope walking with 2 young kids this time

I'm getting old so really need to get pregnant this year but still getting pain twinges in pelvis prob not helped as still breast feeding

Problem number two - husband is unemployed at moment he was made redundant in December , he has taken a year off as no job in industry at moment (oil and gas downturn) so he taken time off to spend with kids. We have lots of savings so can afford to do so. Issue is we no idea what the future holds with regards to oil industry and he might never earn big money again so will 3 end up a financial strain

We would need a bigger car currently have a Volvo v60 but would need a xc90 and they not cheap , not ideal when husband not working

Am I made to do it all again I wonder just as we starting to get life back and go out and do stuff on bikes / walking etc to go back to a year plus of being stuck around house as I struggle to work

Is 3 a lot more hassle in general ..? Holidays, outings etc

But then I'm scared I will regret not doing it, the clock is ticking and I'm so torn

Does anyone who have three wish they stuck at 2 or anyone regret not having 3
Also anyone with PGP had 3 .? How was it

Ds not dad and do

Stupid phone
I've two sons

Struggle to walk not work

Sorry for so many typos

I would stick with 2 for the very good reasons you've mentioned, unemployed dh and bad pregnancies.

I'm not as bother about husband as in his year off he training to move to construction industry if needs be and Oil never comes booming back, we have plenty of savings to last a good few years of him not working, only thing would be car though, house is ok we have 5 bedrooms so lots of space

My biggest fear is the PGP and also how much hard work it might be with 3 under 5 year olds.

I'm so torn I think about it constantly :-(

What support have you had for the PGP in the past? I've had it really badly this pregnancy and thought I would be bed bound until delivery but I found a brilliant physio via the Pelvic Partnership website and also bought a support harness which wasn't cheap but was a total game changer for me. www.maternity-belt.co.uk/product/hg-maternity-support-belt/

I had weekly chiro appointments from 8 weeks I think that's the only reason I managed to stay walking

That said my husband is swinging towards no for the reason above with regards to no job. He thinks it's stupid to have a child with no idea what his future careers might be. He is a very money driven person. I'm more laid back about money.

Surely if your husband is not working he can do all the walking stuff till the baby comes? Does your pgp improve once the baby's out?

Yeah he can certainly help which is a big driver for me to make most of him being at home but he going away in January for 9 weeks training into another industry.

Well I'm 9 months post party at moment but still BF and getting twinges still so it's not totally better yet