How am I going to cope?!

[iamapixiebutnotaniceone]

I'm currently 34 weeks pregnant with my 4th child and I'm panicking! I have a 7 year old, a 4 year old and a 2 year old. Only recently have I struggled with everything with them and lately it does seem to be everything! recently there have been lots of complications in this pregnancy but only as far as my health is concerned so we are uncertain whether baby will be delivered early or not. I can't make any plans and I haven't got the energy to get the things done that I need to do day to day. DP has the best intentions when it comes to picking up the slack for me to have a rest but it just doesn't seem to happen. It feels like I have to lose the plot to be able to get a minutes peace and even then everything is still waiting for me to do. I can't see how I'm going to cope with the load I have plus a newborn! I don't want to ask other people for help, I should be able to handle my own life and my own responsibilities! I'm definitely feeling pretty defeated tonight!

My eldest had just turned 5 when dc4 was born. Dc2 has ASD, very challenging behaviour. She turned 3 while I was pregnant and it was just when things got very tough with her. I was vomiting everyday, I always have nervous pregnancies (I lost my first dd at 25 weeks and had 5 girls in 6 years).

I couldn't wait jntil the baby was born ang morning sickness would be over. Life, however, continued to get difficult with dc2. However we reached a new normal, and 5 years later, with a 10, 8, 7 and 5 years on; with our youngest at school, I can barely believe I made it. AND, I'm nostalgic for the baby days

I'm trying to say is, it will be ok! Sometimes it will be pretty challenging. My house was a dive for 5 years! Another one of my dc developed a troublesome health issue, but we are ok, a new normal! Good luck!

Try not to panic. You're hormonal, emotional, sore & tired. I hear ya!! And ditto! But things will fall into place when baby is here. You're feeling overwhelmed but YOU CAN DO THIS! Just try to prioritise, don't stress over mess. Laundry will get done. Dishes will get done. And if that's tmrw instead of today, is it the end of the world? No! Try to be patient with your little ones. I always have to remind myself that they're only young. Why should I expect them into perfectly behaved little humans when we, as adults, can't even attain that all the time? When you have more than one I think you automatically expect more of the older ones. Again, I have to remind myself not to do this. I have a 9, an 8, a 6, a 4, a 2 & am due number 6 any day now. It's scary!!! But we'll be just fine. Try not to expect too much (and I mean from your kids, your OH and yourself)...a chilled Mama equals a more chilled baby...which hopefully results in a more chilled out household overall. Good luck. It does get easier. ☺

Thanks! Feel a bit daft after a bit of a meltdown yesterday We had a huge rush to get to one of my DD's classes and my eldest had a bad fall and broke her front (adult) tooth and made a mess of her face and hands and knees. Got home after the class and one of them fell through the door and landed on the youngest so lots and lots of screaming and a couple more bruises between them. DP was trying to build bunk beds and get everyone's sleeping and storage arrangements sorted ready for new baby so the house was chaos and everyone had a late night because the beds took much longer than expected. Last night my nerves were absolutely shot! Today has been no better, it feels like there is SO much to do all of the time with no chance of even taking a few minutes of quiet.
DP is already planning number 5 in the hope of having a son. I don't think so!

Ha! We could do a swap!! I'll have 6 boys in a few days! 🤣😉🤣😉🤣😉

We all have bad days... especially towards the end of pregnancy and even more so if it has been a problematic one and our health isn't the perkiest. You will probably cope just fine, it sounds like things are a bit up in the air and it's normal to have a bit of a panic.