Planned pregnancy but feeling regret

[sidonie1]

I've read of several others feeling this way and would love to hear how you got on. I have three children, 3, 1.5 and 1.5. I really wanted one more after the twins and am in the early stages of pregnancy. Since finding out, I feel real despair. Thinking I absolutely don't want and can't deal with another. I'm feeling really sick and thinking this must be hormones talking as I was fine before and felt so positive about it. Have you experienced this at all and how did it pan out? I'm hoping my feelings change as I progress and feel better. I realise it sounds ridiculous, which makes me think it must be crazy pregnancy hormones.

I felt this way with dd2 after 2 mc. I felt this way pretty much through the whole (much wanted) pregnancy and was worried l'd suffer pnd after she was born but everything felt fabulous once she was born. I only have 2 dc so maybe someone with a larger family will also comment.

Hi Im sorry you are feeling like this.

I felt similar when I got pregnant with dc4. We had always said we wanted four but dc3 was 14 weeks old when I realised I was pregnant again

I didn't tell anyone for a long time (except dp) I felt I needed time to get my head round it and if I'm totally honest I was bit embarrassed at being pregnant again so quickly!
When I had my 12 weeks scan which coincided with my starting to feel better. I started to feel much happier.
Be kind to yourself, give yourself time and remember hormones are a bitch!!

Yep, I felt the same with all 4 pregnancies - all of which were planned. I had real moments of panic where I would've done anything to turn back the clock and not have to do it!!

I can't remember when it stopped, I think it was after 16w once I'd stopped vomiting.

Thank you, all of your stories are very reassuring. Will try to stop the panic creeping in!

our DC4 is now 3 months and I completely get what you mean. To reassure you though, my DC2 and 3 are also twins and I was freaking out about how hard 4 will be but the reality is its easy! remember the last time you had a newborn you had two! everything was harder and more exhausting! having just one baby is a breeze in comparrision I promise! my DC are a bit older (5, 3, 3) but really I think you will find that its your memories of how hard it is with twins that is colouring your thoughts a bit.

my pregnancy was hard, really hard and I was in and out of hospital but its a relatively short term thing for a long term gain.

now DC4 is here we wouldn't be without her and she completes our family beautifully as like you I just wanted one more after our twins.

Thank you Starling and Alasalas - just reading your comments and feeling much more positive. Starling, so great to read your experience - hoping for the same feeling once this one's born.