Does the feeling to have another go away?

[dm86]

Hi all,

I currently have 3 dcs and love having 3! They are 7,4 and 7 months. Little one is 7 months so no doubt things will change as he gets older!

I only wanted two children really and after number 2 we had an awful time with him although easiest labour lol. I didn't want anymore after him! Number 3 was an accident! Now the 7 month old is a pleasure and has been so easy from day 1! I'm now desperately broody for another! Is 4 dc just a stupid idea?

Putting it into perspective it is stupid! We have little to no family support/I'm due back at work in 3 weeks/we only have a 3 bed house although looking to extend eventually but not yet/we're due to change for a bigger car so that's not an issue/My husband already has two dcs also/I'm doing a degree which will be finished before my littlest starts school/I already have a lot on my plate with various other commitments. But yet I still can't shake the feeling of another!

If I did have another I would want it now rather than wait a few years. I'm 28 but my personal preference is as I had my dd at 21 I don't want to be too late having any more as I don't want a bigger age gap! I think I may regret not having one now but then it also could be just a stage I'm going through! How did people find having 4? I think also as we don't have big families I would like them to have each other as they have no cousins currently?

I'm sorry I'm just waffling on lol! Any advice would be great

It did go away for me (well, mostly), I have 3 and once my youngest started to become more independent I really appreciated the ability to lie in at the weekend, have a nice long uninterrupted bath, go out for meals as a family without the stress of a marauding toddler! The thought of giving that up outweighs any desire for a fourth child. I'm a fair bit older than you though so other factors probably come into play too, like the fact I'm not sure my body could physically cope with another!

We have 5 DC. I always wondered what people meant when they said they felt like they were 'done'. I feel it now though and it's a very definate thing, even though the youngest is still only 2.

Hi OP, I have three 9,6 and 1. I'm 36 and dh has just had a vasectomy so definitely no more for me

It was the right decision for various reasons. I do look forward to a bit more freedom and energy but still get the odd 'pang' when I see a pregnant friend or think about the hope and excitement of a new baby. But I think that will fade as time goes by.