Keeping your relationship alive with 3+ kids

[littleraysofsunshine]

How you do keep the right balance and keep the relationship Alive?

You make sure you go out sometimes without any of them, if only for a walk, so you can talk to each other without interruption. We used to swap babysits with friends for exactly this purpose.

It must have worked - we're still together.

We do little things for each other like buy little gifts,
make a cup of tea at a convenient time and have a little chat.
Watch something together in the evening
We ll get a take away on a Saturday evening and chat and eat together after kids have gone to bed
Let each other have some alone time and time with friends. For me, it's important to be have my own social life. I'm happier when I get a break from it all then I can be a better partner too.

You dont.

Talk to each other. Parent together and have some time without the kids.

Make sure you make time for one another.

We've always sat and chatted,watched something together on the telly once all 5DC are in bed.

Sometimes we'll treat ourselves to a take away and watch a scary movie once the children are in bed asleep.

A few years ago DH booked a day of work for when the children were at school and we booked them into after school club for that day.Once we'd dropped the children of at school we went of to Thorpe park for the day.We both still have fond memories of that day it was brilliant.

We tell each other we Love each other every day,we always have and we'll have a cuddle,hold hands kiss(not movie style)in front of the children.We both think it's important for them to see that they're mummy and daddy still love each other.

Um ... Occasionally when we drop the dcs off to nursery and school, dh says he has an appt at work and takes a couple of hrs off. We go for breakfast. No expectation to drink and get drunk, be tired the next day because of a late night, no need for babysitter. A bit cheeky, but dh works v late and sometimes weekends with no overtime ...

We're fairly new to the 3 children thing as DS3 is only 2 months old, but our golden time to catch up on each other tends to be in bed at night before going to sleep. We usually just talk and reflect on the day. I do miss my time with him alone though!

Set up your camp area with duvet in the living room, then talk, watch netflix series/tv, kiss, have sex, drink and eat. Not necessarily all at the same time.

We have a 'date night' once a week now our eldest teen is old enough to babysit (we make sure all the little ones are in bed before we leave though-he just has to sit and watch Netflix!). It's important for us to have face-to-face time either at a restaurant or pub where we're actually looking at one another making eye contact when we speak (as opposed to side by side on sofa or shouting to each other above the general noise/chaos/din of our daily life!). We do struggle to not talk about the kids though - lol. Must put a ban on that topic! Haha

I think it depends on the kids ages?
Our eldest is 12 youngest is 2.
Lots of talking and planning what we will do post kids