Siblings sharing a room, constant arguing at bedtime

[Neverenoughhoursintheday]

I need ideas for dealing with this! They have to share a room. The younger one messes around and the older one screams and shouts. I spend most of the night going up and down stairs telling them to be quiet as they 're disturbing others. I've tried removing privileges, ie, tv, grounding them, reward jar, nothing works. It'll be just as bad the next night :(

do you stagger the bedtimes? Let the older one stay up a bit later than the younger one and that gives the younger one time to get to sleep

This used to be me and my older sister. We moved to a bigger house so all 4 kids had their own bedroom. Problem solved. Could you extend into the loft if moving is not an option?
I think the age difference of 3 years was too big for us to be able to share a room

I've got dd3 (9) and ds (6) sharing. It works much better if ds goes to bed half an hour earlier than dd3.

Extension not an option, though that would solve it. I've tried staggering but that doesn't work. The younger one is still awake and the room is a mess. Really at a loss at what to do :/

I feel your pain!! DS3 and DS4 are a flaming nightmare!! I ended up getting my mum to make a long curtain and using a piece of thick dowling to make a barrier across the room. It has helped quite a lot actually - they both like having their own spaces (although quite small spaces) and have made them their own to some extent which in turn has led them to keep them a bit tidier.

Probably - thanks at least its not just me. I think if I did that the younger one would think its a game and keep crossing to his sibling anyway. Drives me crazy, every night we have the conversation about bedtime, quiet time, sleeping. Yet it makes no difference, younger one still annoys the older one, older one starts screaming and shouting :( I feel for the older one, but nothing I do sinks into the younger one.

How old is the youngest? Cot? Your bed (if that's a treat give it to the oldest!) and move once asleep. Seems oldest is good, so rewards for oldest to inspire youngest?

The youngest is 7. The oldest is better at bedtime just gets angry and loud

My 13,11,7 year olds share a room and soon to be more sharing they argue every night as the oldest is in year 9 and needs her sleep so I send the youngest up fist and let her fall asleep then send up the other two they seem to argue less because they usually ignore each other

I can only suggest spreading the bedtimes out as others have suggested. My sons are 6 and 4 and used to fight and argue so much the 6 year old is curently on the waiting list to see a specialist to rule out adhd as he just doesnt need as much sleep, hes very active and cant keep still. My other is the opposite and would find it quite frustrating that he couldnt settle due to my other son so we now keep him up until 8pm to make sure his brothers fast asleep. We are just on top of sorting the boys out and the girls are starting so we arew now doing the same with them, its bloody hard work though.