We have decided to go for a No 4. Positives please

[BeauticianNotMagician81]

Hi all after much debating DP and I have decided we want a fourth. We get married soon and want to wait until the end of the year to start ttc probably October time. We have a ds9, ds8 and ds1. DP is the biological father to one of the children but a father in every way to all 3. The older two dont have contact with their father.

I just want to hear some positives and tips for coping. DP works away Monday to Friday most months of the year. We rent a property and are saving to buy but its not an absolute must for us. We were looking at getting a 7 seater car soon anyway. We could wait but I don't really want the age gap between the older two and youngest to get much bigger. DP has a reasonably well paid job. I'm working from home at the moment but have two interviews today and next week for more work and ones an informal chat as I already have the job.

Hey,

Had to reply as I'm in a similar boat. My DP and I are not yet married, about have decided to have a fourth, all going well. My first child is not his but the second two are - hes great with them all though. He also works away lots, although hasn't for a while, touch wood. I only have a 5 seater car, but dont want a 7 seater so will see how that pans out! We rent too. We won't be buying as we don't have a deposit, but renting isnt so bad. I love our house, and at least we don't have to pay for things like boiler repairs or new windows! Anyway...

Are you excited? Nervous? I'm so nervous! A part of me really wants to stick with 3, but I'm only 24 and would love to be pregnant/have a new baby again. Saying that, I get really bad morning sickness so am dreading that while trying to look after 3 others :(

Hope to speak to you soon :)

Thanks for your reply. I am excited and nervous. Ds1 was my easiest child and although a great sleeper ds3 can be hard work. So I worry if ill cope especially as I'm alone pretty much mon-fri. But I see the bigger picture and look forward to my big brood around me. When are you planning on ttc. How old are your 3?

So you have three boys? That's amazing. My friend has 3 boys and I just love seeing the brothers interact.

What is it you like about a big brood? I'm looking forward to simple things like all of us ordering pizza and then watching a film together. Mine are 5, 3 and 18 months.

When are you planning on ttc? Is anything stopping you doing it now? I don't work, I gave up uni to have the girls. There has been the odd time where I've panicked and regretted it but I know I did the right thing - you can't get this time back. We're kind of ttcing now! Yesterday would have been the day I started back on the pill after the week break but I didn't, so we'll see. I think I'll only try for a couple of months though and then stop as I want to avoid a due date between May and January (I know, I'm weird!).

I just love the noise of a house full of happy children. Sure there are times they argue but you get that as soon as you have more than one.

I had my first at 23 and my biggest regret is not going to uni although I didn't go due to children it was because I didn't know what to do after school and settled on the college route. I've been debating going back.

I'm waiting to ttc as I have just started a new job and want to find something else to. I just want to make sure we are financially stable. Also I want us to be out of our wedding bubble to make sure it is the right decision for all of us. I just don't feel like I'm done yet.