What's it like going from two to three

[celticfc1]

Just looking for a bit of feedback. I have two boys - a 3 year old and 6 year old. I have wanted a third child for about two years, and now my husband wants a third child as well. So excited at the thought of having a bigger family, and love the family we have. They're good boys. Just want to know other people's experiences x

I'm still in the 'honeymoon' period as DC3 is only
7 months old so isn't causing too much havoc yet, but he is an absolute dream.

The other two (4 and 2) dote on him and he is the happiest, most easygoing baby ever.
I always wanted 3 and feel like my family is complete now.

I am the oldest of 4. My mum says the jump from 1 to 2 is massive and the jump from 2 to 3 is big but the jump from 3 to 4 is negligible.....
From my point of view having more siblings means there was always someone to play with.
Good luck - exciting times!!

Thanks. I feel a bit nervous now that we're trying (fingers crossed) but hope that as there will be a wee gap in age, that might make it easier. I found the jump from one to two quite tricky (as I had 2 in nappies). On the plus side, my two boys love babies, and are helpful with wee ones. I think a lot of people are quite negative about having more than two, but you do what's right for you x

Everytime I read a positive thread like this I think I def want to TTC for a 3rd.... but then there was another thread all about middle child syndrom and with 3 theres always someone left out so better to have 2 or 4 that changes my mind!

@KnittedWaffle...I'm the same, always wanted three. I've been pining for a third for so long, and been feeling guilty for wanted a third child. They're lovely at that age and look like angels when they're sleeping x

@clara85 - I don't always buy the middle child syndrome theory. Do what feels right. For me (if I'm blessed again) a third child would be the last as I'm probably going to need a third c-section, and I'm getting older. It's now or never. Lol! Can't believe my hubby's had a change of heart. I'm over the moon!

Thats great celtic that hubby is onboard - mine isnt keen but hasnt said no, hes the practicle one but is great hands on dad so would not say never..... my 2 are only 15 months apart and still in nappies so think im traumatsed by how hard the last year has been which is making me unsure.

I have also had 2 sections which is a worry, i always feel why should i chance a 3rd going well and a 3rd healthy child etc but I dont want a big gap so I also feel the now or never to decide :) I am an only child and dh is the youngest of 3 and he and his siblings all strongly believe in middle child so its hard to know when I dont have the experince of other siblings as like you I dont really believe in middle child syndrom!! x

It's a tricky one, you're probably still more in the younger child phase if your two are still in nappies. My hubby wasn't keen and I think he's had a change of heart as he sees how much it's affecting me. If you really want another one, just give it some thought and some time. Hope it works out for you xx

I don't buy the middle child thing either. You could argue that any of the siblings are disadvantaged depending on your view.

TBH my eldest probably had it the toughest so far as I didn't know what I was doing, her dad wasn't around and when he was he was totally stressed/depressed because of his job and I was anxious as a result of it all.
They are all completely different and DC2 is impossible to ignore/overlook etc as he is an absolute sweetheart with a touch of Tasmanian Devil thrown in for good measure!
Good luck with TTC :)

I think the middle child thing depends on the child and the parenting. We are going for 4 (4th section too) - I worry about my dd being left out by her brothers, rather than us tbh - but we want a 4th anyway.

I found the transition from 2 to 3 fine, I'd even go so far as to say fairly easy. It is harder now that ds2 is a whirlwind toddler! Still lovely though, and we wouldn't be having another if it was that hard!

Btw my mum had 4 c sections so 4 is do-able!!! She is quite fit & healthy though. Diabetic but no one would guess by looking at her (size 8).
Best of luck.

Knittedwaffle- sounds like you have similar age gaps to me! I'm due dc3 in December all going well, and got a 3.6 yo and almost 2 yo. I'm tired of people telling me I'm mad so it's good to hear your positive spin!

DS1 was 3 years 5 months and DS2 was 17 months old when DS3 was born.

your gaps - lovely and more than do-able. go for it!

(but of course I will say that, we've just decided to go for baby number 7!)

Black holes - maybe we are a little bit mad, but in a good way!
I love having my 3, they are fantastic and my brood definitely wouldn't be complete without DC3!

I got a lot of the 'you're mad!' Comments, especially as I had one of each and people couldn't understand why I needed another. (The same people are now asking if I'd like a 4th as I have an odd number now )

On the plus side, DD and Ds1 keep each other entertained a lot of the time so I can actually finish a cup of tea and the eldest two love taking care of their little brother so that makes my life easier too!

All the best with the rest of your pregnancy!

waffle thanks!