Come and tell me 4 will be okay... Please?

[Sleepthief]

Sorry for rambling incoherence, but here goes...

Three DCs - 8, nearly 4 and 2. Have been feeling a bit odd and just got a BFP! Thought we were done, but clearly not (although still early days). Am now in shock. Although have idly fantasised about having 4 in the past, it wasn't actually serious.

Please tell me 4 is no harder than 3 - please? Or at least that it's not as hard as the jump from 2-3 (especially given that DC3 was a Velcro baby and has only just started allowing me to leave his sight).

Fairly certain we will go ahead, as have always said that although we were happy at 3, if an accident occurred we wouldn't want to terminate. But I am currently shitting myself and in need of reassurance. And advice on how to break it to DH

We were just starting to get some semblance if a sex life back and now look what it's gone and done.

Was on the mini pill, by the way.

Help?

we have 6kids: 5 boys (12, 10, 8, 6 & 3 ) and baby DD (15 months)

you'll be ok!

I was quite happy with my 3 and number 4 came as such a shock to us - really wasnt meant to happen at all!!!

To be honest I was so shocked it really took me the best part of the year of her arriving to get my head around it all!! That was feb 2012 and when she was born I had 2 boys 5, dd 3 and a newborn. DD was a real nightmare baby and non sleeping toddler and still hasnt barely slept through the night now at 3 so that probably didnt help.

In terms of how I coped - honestly the upheaval of changing the car/extending the kitchen/deciding what to do about work was the hardest for me. I had a delightfully carthartic birth and she has been a breeze in terms of breastfeeding/big weight gains and not too quick on the movement development!!! She loves being around the older kids and when I have the 2 girls (when boys are at school) its quite lovely to see them interact.

At first I felt that it was a 2 person job - although all of mine were pretty young and one of my boys has attatchment disorder which added to the workload. Its a rollercoaster for me - totally lots of work/pretty noisy/me and dh dont get much time together/am not very good with having friends over to play etc. The upsides just make me feel so happy - I think I was always meant to have 4 babies!!!