BFP for no 3 - TOTALLY UNPLANNED - slightly in shock.

[ninipops]

Ok so just did the test this morning and yes it was positive. Wasn't planning no 3 at all - DS is only 9 months and DD is 27 months - and you can do the maths for DC3. DH was a bit shocked and before he went off to work said we wold need to have a chat about ALL our options. Really not sure how I feel about anything at the moment and have been trying to have a look at what others have said about going from 2 - 3 but its not really going in. Not sure what I'm trying to say or what I want to hear. Still trying to get head round it really.

Didn't want to go past this...

They are all very young, but perfectly possible. 3 is the new 2 as I'm sure you've heard on here before. Most people I know have 3 kids nowadays. I expect your dh is in shock too. I went from 1-3, so it's manageable, though it will be hard work. So, how far are you? Try and get your eldest into a pre-school, or school nursery from 3 years old, which will give you mornings free. Now is the time to put he/ she's name down for school Nursery. You can put children in pre-school from 2 years old, maybe just 1 or 2 mornings a week, which will relieve you when you start feeling the heaviness of pregnancy. I would suggest doing things sooner rather than later so it doesn't all coincide with the birth of a number 3.

It really will be fine, honestly, though it doesn't sound like it. Someone I know had 4 kids instead of the 2 she'd planned, and couldn't imagine it any other way. Be careful with contraception after dc3 comes!!!

Thanks Merry, yes I think DH is def in shock! I am only 4 weeks so about as early as I can be and know for definite. DD is already down for school nursery and is currently in private nursery 3 mornings - I went back to work part time after her (10 weeks pg with DS!) and we kept her there on half days to give me time with DS. Am due back at work again in 5 weeks. That chat with my boss is not going to be fun!

Oh dear, don't envy you that conversation, but it is a way off yet. When do you need to tell them? They'll just assume you didn't lose the baby weight of number2! You may not get a lot of traffic on here till later in the day, as not many people come past this topic, I just saw this in active convos...hope you get more opinions/ support soon. Take care...and enjoy the next few weeks till sickness comes in.

(Though I wouldn't call 3 kids a 'larger family' , just average)

Hi ninipops, congratulations!

I've just had the shock of finding out DC3 is due in January. I already have DD 3 + 2 months and DS 15 months. There will be exactly the same gap between DC 1 and 2 and 2 and 3.

I am back at work - only for 3 months and am about 2 months pg and worse still I was 3 months pg when I got this job in 2010 but didn't tell them until 20 weeks. Not sure how my boss will react! Luckily, I work remotely and never see my boss so the bump hiding won't be as bad (which is just as well as my trousers are already a little tight round the middle!

I am mostly worried about the dynamic between the children, how I will cope with 2 toddlers (DS is a little terror) and a huge baby bump (!) and of course money. Is 3 really going to be much harder than two? I've timed it badly so DD won't be in school and DS won't be eligible for free hours when I go back to work but at least I get SMP this time!

I've mentioned it to a couple of people so far and no one seems to be as excited for the third one (some even look shell shocked). Maybe I'm being hormonal!

How are you feeling today? I've done no work (only found out 2 days ago) and am struggling to find things to eat that dont make me feel ill!
Just to add to the mix, nursery have called to say DD has chicken pox! What fun!

Hey it could be worse - could be finding out you're pregs with DS4. MerryMarigold is right - be careful with contraception after dc3! But 2-3 was very easy for me to be honest. It's really alot of fun having 3 (and alot if work having 4!)

Hi all thanks for the encouragement.

Poche - feeling fine so far, slowing coming to terms with it. I guess I am lucky in that I don't seem to get morning sickness - well haven't with the last two. Hope things are going ok with you. When in Jan are you due - by my dates I am due on 23rd - the day before DD turns 3!

Lolly - that is one way of looking at things although I have got a horrible feeling its twins - absolutely no reason to think that I think I might be just making things worse so that when it (hopefully!) turns out to be one it will seem easy! As to contraception I think tubes are going to be tied - either mine or his!

DH had a vasectomy when DD (unplanned third) was two weeks old

My two boys were 9 and 4 when I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant at the age of 39. I was retraining as a lawyer and just about to graduate - I cried for four days. But you know what, DD (now 9) came along and has been one of those children who wakes with a smile every day of her life. She has brought nothing but joy and sunshine to our family and her big brothers adore her. I never thought I would have a daughter, then my mum died when I was five months pregnant and I knew she had come along for a reason. Enjoy your unplanned baby, I am sure s/he will bring as much happiness to your family as ours did!

that is such a beautiful story, sunnydelight!

Oh we love DC3- she's meant to be!! Third DCs just seem to be cheeky, funny and well I think you're more relaxed
Yup is Hard work going from 2-3 in logistical sense (bigger car, hotel rooms for 5, 3 young Dc running in different directions..) but it's do-able. Besides in other ways they just fit in and jumble along..! You're prob tired already so what's a little bit less sleep for a little bit longer Ooh and there's the maternity leave..!!
Ps. My friends DH years ago didn't want unplanned dc3 and heavily suggested other options early stages, but now she's (DC3) his 'favourite' -in that they are very close, - and he was full of apologies to his DW.
Hope the chat goes well ...