How did you decide to go from 2 to 3??!

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I have two gorgeous kids - ds is 3.5yrs and dd is 1.5. I'm one of three so and I always thought that I would like to have more than two kids. But now that I have two, I'm not entirely sure how it'd be having a third - we are blessed with two healthy kids, we are just about living within our means and I'm finally feeling (after the shock of going from 1 to 2) that I am starting to get myself back. Could I go back to pregnancy and sleepless nights again???? I keep changing my mind.

DH is not keen on the idea of having another one but we're both undecided. Can anyone recommend a book about the decision to go for a no.3?

Thanks!

Hi I have no advice but we are in roughly the same situation as you - DH and I theoretically have decided to go for no 3 (DS 4.11 and DD 1.11 at the moment) but keep getting moments of doubt at the thought of the sleepless nights etc again. Our situation is also slightly complicated in that we rely on family for childcare and having a DC3 would mean more work for them as well as us, which we need to take into account.

So, no advice, but watching any other replies with interest!

We never really decided. I always wanted three and dh wanted 2. I had a mirena which failed and resulted in an ectopic. I wouldn't have another one after that so it kind of a matter of time. I didn't find the newborn bit the hard bit, more now as dc3 hits the 2s and I see in comparison how easy and independent my boys are. There's 2.5 years between each pair. I got my little girl that I'd always wanted. I would never have felt complete without dc3 whilst I know I'm done now.

A couple of things to bear in kind is that everything is designed for 2+2, we had to change cars, move house. Holidays need extra size rooms and many hotels won't let us in one room. Also it is hard to ask the grandparents (or anyone) to look after all three. Descending on family and friends is more complicated.

Hi, I am pregnant with DC3 and have a DD and DS. It was a hard decision whether to have DC3 and I still have moments of panic to be honest, but I feel I will regret it more in the long run if I don't and am at an age I felt it was now or never. I found the forum on www.havingthreekids.com helpful, especially the archived pages which deal with pretty much every issue to do with having 3 imaginable (mostly from a US perspective, I think). Good luck with your decision.