transition from 1 to 2 help

[plexi321]

hi, i wasn't sure where to post this?

then i thought that you all would have the best insight into this.

it's kind of a two-part question...

i have one child, who i gave birth to when i was 35, we tried for years after for another. but to no avail. we had a rocky couple years, moving countries and having a baby was, well, set aside. i just turned 40 and we are thinking of having another.

i just would love some advice on the transition between the one child to two. the fact that my son is going to be at least 6 years older than his sibling and also am i crazy to think having a kid at 40 is going to be easy!!

thank you any advice greatly appreciated :)

I only have 2, saw this in active convos.

Ds is 5 and dd is *lmost 18m. Its fab having 2, hard work sometimes but its hard work having 1 isn't it? Transition from 1-2 was quite hard for me mentally but physically dd just slotted into our existing routine and is a much more adaptable kid than ds was. It was hard mentally I think because I felt a bit torn in different directions and because I wasn't well after having her and was knackered because of that. It wasn't anything like as scary as having ds though, you're kind of used to the responsibility factor iyswim? Worst bit is when they're both ill but best bit by far is seeing them interact - my two adore each other nost of the time.

I'm not sure about having a baby at 40, I was 25 and 29. My mum was 40 when she had me though and my brothers just had his first at 40 and they both did / are doing fine.

thanks for that :) i'm sure it will all be fine, fingers crossed!

funny most people say the worst transition is from 1 to 2, or like you say none to 1, and everything after that is easy...

my son is really a good kid, and the most fantastic sleeper thank god. so i think for me it's mostly the disruption after having such luck with him. and also the worry of having a child so late in life, complications and all...

Oh 2 is just lovely IMO! We genuinely found 2 very easy. We had a 4.4 year gap which made it easier too. Lovely watching them together, I can't think of a single negative to be honest.

Now...2-3 that's a bit of a shocker tbh

thanks Barbielovesken, still undecided, my head says no to another but my heart says yes!