I love this forum :)

[Rilith]

I have been a long term user of Bounty, and I have asked them for years now for a large families forum, but they just ignore you unless its to do with advertising and making them money.

Its been such a joy to pop in and speak with like minded people. I love coming to check in every day

Thanks ladies (and gents if there are any)

I do to and I so agree about chatting with like minded people rather than having to slot in on a forum where you have to justify your choices on having a larger family.

Having a larger family is wonderful but brings its own challenges that only other Mums (and Dads) in a similar situation really understand.

There have been a couple of times when I have been fed up/upset and the support I got really made a positive difference, no one judging me or telling me I was being silly just kind, thougthful and considered support.

I am with you Rilith - thanks.

LOL Thats it isnt it, when you are having a grump because you have put the washer on for the 8th time that day and tripped over 8 pairs of shoes and cooked for an ungrateful bunch of children.... you dont want to be told "Well you had all those kids" you just want to be told (or laughed with) by other mums in the same situ that the next day will be better

what i love is that there is always someone with more children than you!

so you can have a read and think 'ah well, at least i've only got the 5 to deal with'.....

I feel the same i feel like im not allowed to have a bad day as people will prob just think, well why did you have another then!

We are all entitled to find it hard sometimes arent we? whether we have 2 or 12 children!

I totally 'get' you. Currently pg with #4 and I'm already getting the looks which say 'well, you made your bed. Now lie on it'. The point is, yes, life can be hard sometimes and you need to vent occasionally but on the whole my life is immeasurably better with my rotten kids little darlings than without.

I'm currently getting the whole 'but you already have 2 girls and a boy - why on earth are you having another? Must have been an accident'

We have two girls and a boy too so if we go for a fourth im sure we will get the same!! Really dont get the logic surely you only have another child if you want another child when we went for no3 everyone assumed it was because we were trying for a boy...err no!!

I told someone on the playground yestderday that this time we were hoping for a cat. She'll not speak to me again I hope but the look on her face was priceless.

On the upside, I've found a buddy at school - she's got 2ds, 1dd, roughly the same age as mine and she's expecting her 4th (ds) 2 weeks before me! She also doesn't have straight forward pgs for various health reasons so it was nice to have a moan with someone who understands...

I have a friend who had her fifth boy at the end of last year. I know she likes talking to me becaus emy reaction had been 'oh wow congrats I'm jealous' rather than the 'oh you're nuts' type comments she got from other people.
I never understood why people made such comments anyway because her children are adorable and nicer than th emajority of the ones in smaller families.

Yes you are entitled to find it hard. People whinge about things all that time that were their choice.

Also nice to have somewhere to share the delights of having a larger family.