A bit deflated now...

[misspollysdolly]

Very newly pregnant with DC4 - very much planned but it has happened quicker than expected (!) (DC3 took a while to appear). Tonight we phoned our parents to tell them - and (not totally unsurprisingly) all four of our parents/in-laws asked outright whether it was 'unexpected' and there was a fairly muted response all in... now I feel a bit as I am actually feeling like this: (though cautiously as am only 6 weeks pg) Is this a normla reaction the bigger your family gets...? AIBU to be just a little deflated...?!

MPD

Yes! Happened to me too with DC4. My sister: 'Are you mad?' But when he arrived he was such a scrumptious little bundle and four is wonderful, don't take any notice of them, congrats!

Glad I am not alone...but does make me nervous about when we do eventually start telling more people... Perhaps I should get a T-shirt or at least a little badge or something, which reads:

Yes, really.
No, totally planned.
Yes, really happy.
Thank you for your time.

MPD

Ignore it. You are happy and your dh is, no one elses opinions really matter. Wait till your announcing your 5th, that will really get them going!

Congratulations!!! We?d like 4 if we can get that far/afford too at the time etc.

We had a bit of a muted response from the parents and we're only on number 3. I had to tell a few friends though over Christmas because I'd gone a green colour and wasn?t drinking, they cheered me up when they did loads of excited congratulating.

The olds have come round now TBH, bit rubbish at the time tho.

Got all the negative responses when telling people I was expecting DS3, was shocked but then thought stuff em.

I hope to go for a fourth and can't wait to hear what they have to say then

Congratulations

We ha d the same,in laws were annoyed because they were waiting to hear that dsil was expecting and they were pissed off that we had dared to have another one, they said well you had better not tell dsil who had had a miscarriage 3 months earlier.

parents' reaction with DS1:

reaction with DS2: "That's lovely dear"

reaction with DD: "Where are you going to put it"

I think they'd react similarly to yours if we ever announced a DC4 (won't happen though)

Congratulations!
When we finally told people we were expecting no4 we had a variety of reactions ranging from a loudly exclaimed "Oh no" to lots of really genuine heartfelt congratulations. We were also told we were very brave/ must be mad etc but took all that with a pinch of salt. We are now enjoying life as a family of six.

My mum actually didn't talk to me for weeks after I told her I was expecting DC4! I think she was just worried how I'd cope but I knew I would. And have. And its lovely. I feel very blessed :)

Congratulations.
We got a very mixed reaction to our third child.
It took the wind right out of my sails, as we were thrilled to bits.
There is a fair age gap between dd's 1 and 2, and dd3
A few people also said " shame it is another girl"
No bodies business but yours.

happened to me too with number 5. Friends/parents were horrified. but they all love our little girl now she's here.

it really depressed me at the time though, when you're so full of joy, to have people behave like that.

And congratulations! That's fantastic! and yaboo-sucks to anyone who feels differently.

Oh, please please get a t shirt that says that and get me one too!

I've just posted similar stuff on my ante-natal thread. Only one person out of about 15 so far has said 'really? wow, congratulations' as their first reaction. Most are pleased just ultra surprised but some are just plain incredulous and downright nosey. Best quote so far?

Them: Were you trying?
Me: Yes.
Them: Did it take long?
Me: Not really. About usual. 5 mins...

Cue much from them...