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Do you have girls or boys?

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LionsAreScary · 20/01/2011 13:46

Reading a few of the threads on this board as we are considering no. 4 (not just yet though).

We have three boys, and already I get comments along the lines of '3 boys! you must be mad!', and 'try for a girl?'... I suspect this will only increase if the Beckhams' 4th baby turns out to be a girl.

So, questions:

If your first 3/4/5/more were all the same (boys or girls), was your next baby the same or different gender?

How did you feel about that?

I have very mixed feelings that I need to work through before we TTC - on the one hand I would love to have a daughter just to see how it is different, but I also love my boys very much and can't really imagine my baby not being a boy. I am a bit scared that people will assume I want a girl (they did last time) and that I'll constantly have to defend why it is fine to have a fourth boy. I also suspect it is more likely that we will have another boy, but am not sure if that is actually the case.

Sometimes, we feel so blessed to have 3 healthy children at all, we almost wonder if we're 'pushing our luck' to try for a fourth at all. Did any of you feel this way?

hope you can help!

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slipperandpjsmum · 22/01/2011 10:17

I have 3 boys and one girl.

boy, boy, girl, boy. My daughter often says she wishes she had a sister and sometimes I think it would have been nice for her.

I am not sure where these boys - you must be mad comments come from. My daughter is more trouble than all the boys put together!!! :)

MungBeans · 22/01/2011 10:41

ggbg

I got all the "want a boy" comments with DS. I was delighted to have a boy but another girl would have been wonderful too.

4boyzmum · 22/01/2011 18:13

as you can tell by my nickname im the mum of 4 fantastic, noisy, boisterous lads....and i love it!! when i was pregnant with ds3 and especially ds4 everyone assumed i was desperate to have a girl - and when i had boys that i was disappointed. but i seriously wasn't bothered and also annoyed that people would think that i could ever be disappointed with the gorgeous, healthy baby boys we'd been blessed with! boys rock!!!

BeattieBow · 22/01/2011 20:55

5 children, 2 boys and 3 girls - b,g,g,g,b.

my youngest (boy) thinks he is a girl though and his sisters treat him just like one!

dune74 · 22/01/2011 23:47

girl,girl,boy,girl

juuule · 24/01/2011 19:53

b,b,g,b,g,g,g,g,g

bigcar · 24/01/2011 20:38

ggbgb

I was so shocked that ds1 was a boy, I made them check again, I was convinced he'd be another girl, we hadn't found out at the scan. Ds1 was seriously happy that dc5 was a ds2, he was feeling a little outnumbered by the girls.

freshmint, I'll be your exception that proves the rule then dc4 has a (uninherited) genetic syndrome, she got stuck and was my first em cs after 3 'easy' births. I was told vbac was highly likely with dc5 as 3 previous vbs but again, another em cs when my scar ruptured. Funnily enough I don't do the lottery, but feel very lucky to have my little clan

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LionsAreScary · 24/01/2011 23:33

Thanks for additional replies. Some great comments - it really does seem that every combination of b & g siblings is possible. Quite a few where the third is the opposite gender to the first two.

Fairies, thanks for telling me about your girls - sounds like a resounding no, they don't fit the stereotypes. Hope your youngest girl finds some nice girly soulmate at school / in her family to balance out all those brothers. At least as she grows she'll have loads of people to look out for her.

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KristinaM · 24/01/2011 23:38

Ggbgbb

Have stopped now, although kids want another girl

pearlgirl · 26/01/2011 17:44

4 boys - we also got lots of comments about trying for girl and people assumed that was why we were having a 4th(it wasn't). I am also sure that if I had had 3 girls people would have thought we were trying for a boy - i am just glad to have my baby safely here.

perpetuallypregnant · 27/01/2011 00:37

Bggg and 4th girl due in may.

I feel very lucky to have my ds and my lovely girls. This pregnancy was a total shock and dd3 will be less than12 months when her sister comes along. For that reason I am pleased she is a other girl as we have everything she needs. A boy would have meant starting again with clothes/ non pink things and financially we could do without that.

I absolutely adore little boys though since mine is almost 15 it seems so long ago.

I would have quite liked another son but I am delighted with my healthy brood.

Ds also has 5 girl cousins no boys. He is ridiculously outnumbered but I think secretly he likes being the only boy and he adores his baby sister.

blueberryjam · 27/01/2011 10:09

I have 4 boys and am pg with dc5. Big part of me would love to have a daughter but am expecting to have another boy. Find out in 2 weeks at my next scan.

Cadmum · 27/01/2011 10:39

My girlfriend had three boys followed by a girl. She refused to believe that it was really a girl until after she was born. The irony is that she has two sisters followed by a brother so should have had faith that it could happen.

My family is dull as I have alternated boy, girl, boy, girl but I am the only female cousin in my generation. My mum,s brother had four sons amd so did my dad's sister.

nappyaddict · 27/01/2011 14:19

Good luck with your scan blueberry

My friend is also expecting her 5th. She has 4 boys but her eldest has a different dad to the younger 3 and this new baby is with a new partner. I have a feeling this one is a girl, but I don't know why - just instinct I guess.

BadRoly · 27/01/2011 14:31

2 if each here too - g b g b - so can't comment on gender bit.

However from the pushing your luck pov, pregnancy no4 was fraught with worry from the 12 week dating scan onwards as various tests were done and at 20 weeks was found to have heart deformities.

We joke that pg4 broke me when people ask if there will be no5, but actually that pregnancy did feel like it "broke" me both emotionally and physically.

However one of my friends went through similar with her first pg so I think it is all down to luck and we were just very fortunate to have 3 problem free pregnancies first.

MrsDmamee · 27/01/2011 23:30

b,b,g

Still cant quite believe i have a girl ...even another member of the family was pg with her 1st at the same time and most people took it for granted that I was having another boy and she was having the girl/1st grandaughter. It turned out the opposite way in the end.

I had a feeling from the start of the pg that it was a girl, no one believed me though. Others thought it was wishful thinking.

I had this panic attack around 17 weeks (before we had scan) what was I going to do if it is a girl? How to I raise a girl?

No one in my immediate family has single gender families but there was alot of girls.
So i was beginning to think I was going to be the one to even it all out.

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