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My husband wants another baby

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slipperandpjsmum · 31/10/2010 12:02

Last night my husband sat me down and said he really wanted another baby. We have 4 children. I hves sort of known he has wanted one but this is the first time we have had a proper 'talk' about it. He said he would leave me to have a think about it. I suppose I had thought our family was complete really but knowing he is so very keen makes me think I should think about it. Has anyone had a similar experience??

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CerealOffender · 31/10/2010 12:09

what do you want?

MUM2BLESS · 31/10/2010 19:22

Not had that experience. Hope you do not mind me asking what are the sex of the four children you have and the ages.

It interesting, am I right in saying its usually the ladies who want another one.

We have four, b 14, b 12, g 9 and b 6. I wanted another but after chatting to hubby he made me look at things differently, I kinna changed my mind.

If hubby had said he wanted another I would have gone again. Thats me, everyone is different.

As cerealoffender said what do you want?

All the best in your thinking adbout this.

phipps · 31/10/2010 19:25

We have 3 and after dc1 was born I didn't want anymore. DH brought up the subject of having dc2 and 3 was me. I do want more but he said no.

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slipperandpjsmum · 31/10/2010 20:25

Their ages are 14, 9, 8 and 2. The 8 yr old is a girl. I know I need to consider what I want but its not that simple is it and the thing is I am not sure what I want now!! Advice please!!!!

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CerealOffender · 31/10/2010 22:13

is he a fantastic dad who loves nothing more that spending time with his kids?

CerealOffender · 31/10/2010 22:14

and yes, it is as simple as what you want. you have 4 lovely children. if you don't want anymore that is your call tbh. it is your body adn your life that will be most affected.

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slipperandpjsmum · 01/11/2010 20:31

MUM2BLESS you mentioned your husband made you look at things differently - what sort of things did you discuss, if you don't mind me asking

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MUM2BLESS · 05/11/2010 11:29

Sorry for reply delay as been so busy.

Its a while ago. We may have talked about looking after the ones we already have. (finances)

I have three boys and a girl. I wanted another girl, he may have mentioned that I may have another boy.

Also we have a seven seater. We both come from families with twins. My grandmas had three sets, one of which was my dad. My husbands mum was a twin. I think we may have mentioned if we had twins.

As its a while ago we may have talked about these things.

You see I loved being pregnant but its got to be more than that.

I am glad we made that choice. I also childmind four and will take on another shortly.

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slipperandpjsmum · 06/11/2010 09:45

Thanks for your reply MUM2BLESS. I still don't really know what to do but time isn't really on my side would have to decide either way fairly soon. Think he feels that to as he has mentioned it in passing several times but never so directly. As to mentioned earlier it always seems to be the other way round - Mum wants another and I am finding it hard to find someone who has been in this situation.

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MUM2BLESS · 06/11/2010 19:51

You mentioned time isn't on your side? how old are you? (sorry being nosey, you do not have to answer that,I had my last child at 39.

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slipperandpjsmum · 07/11/2010 14:56

I am 42, had my last baby when I was 40 (two days after my birthday)!

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maybemore · 07/11/2010 15:00

I'm just a month from 42 and my DH has been pestering for a third for the last few years. I have finally decided I am going to go for it. I guess it would be nice for your 2 year old .

cece · 07/11/2010 15:05

Well at 42 (no offence) but you need to decide one way or the other quite quickly.

My suggestion would be to try, say for 6 months, and see what happens. If you get pg then great and if you don't then the decision is made for you.

HTH

I had my last one at 42 and TBH I did feel pretty tired after 6 months of night feeds...

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slipperandpjsmum · 07/11/2010 19:18

Ha Ha none taken cece - I agree, think thats what has added to my confusion, knowing I need to decide quickly.

maybemore it nice to hear from someone in a very similar situation. What finally made you decide?

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maybemore · 08/11/2010 09:22

slipper I ummed and aahed for a long time - mainly because I was/am worried about Downs etc.

I've decided to go for it because
a)I really have run out of time and I think I will regret this later if I don't go for it b)I just would love to have another little baby - even though I know I will be on my knees LOL.
c) My DSs are always asking 'when' I am going to have the next one.

GaribaldiGirl · 08/11/2010 21:48

slipper - i had a 5th baby at 43, she's now 15 months. my husband was really keen and i got pregnant the first month of trying, which i think was a message it was meant to be! i have never regretted having her for a minute. my eldest daughter (now 11) is a fantastic help and all her siblings love her to bits. i also had the fear of twins (some in my family) but i read somewhere that the incidence of twins declines after the age of 40.
mind you their homework now rules my life and heaven only knows how i'll manage when 5 of them are at school!!!
good luck with whatever you decide.

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