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2 to 3 kids, don't laugh - I'm nervous!

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eisbaer · 17/10/2010 19:45

Just discovered i'm pg with DC3, six wks or so. Trying not to panic. We were going to be going for it soon anyway, but it's just been so sudden! I am aware I could be in the wrong place, reading how many kids some of you have, but I'm just looking for reasons why it's not so tricky going from 2 to 3 as it is going from 1 to 2, as I found that much harder than I thought I would. SAying that, DS2 had colic, has bad eczema, allergies, asthma, and so didn't' sleep any length of time till about a year. Maybe this young'un will be different. Please tell me I'll manage!

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FlyingInTheCLouds · 17/10/2010 19:55

I have 3 (4 with dss), it was sooooooooooooo much easier to jump to 3 from 2 than 1 to 2.

I am relaxed vshe is relaxed.

she's 5 months and hand on heart I';ve never been happier.

obviously bedtime is chaotic, and we are knackered but was anyway!

good luck

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eisbaer · 17/10/2010 20:20

music to my ears(eyes?), thank you for the words!

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DungunGirl · 18/10/2010 15:40

Me too eisbaer!

Just found out that I am pg with DC3! Unplanned...even though we had discussed maybe a last one.

Feeling shell shocked though as it will mean a total change of lifestyle possibly.

May have to give up work totally as childcare bill may be impossible. Finances are going to be close to impossible...so yeah...happy but scared.........

CONGRATULATIONS by the way!

warthog · 18/10/2010 15:42

in same boat as you eisbaer. we'll just cope though, and it'll be fine.

monstermissy · 18/10/2010 15:45

going from 1-2 was hell for me i really struggled, going from 2-3 was blissful and not a problem at all. No 3 slotted in with no trouble. So much easier than the time before. Congratulations :)

lostinafrica · 18/10/2010 18:58

3 and 4 very easy babies, just entertained themselves or were entertained by older ones! 2 to 3 was nice because older 2 went off to play together leaving me in peace with the baby.

It is exhausting, though!

thesecondcoming · 18/10/2010 19:37

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naturalbaby · 30/10/2010 20:13

i had resigned myself to only having 2, sold a load of newborn stuff then got pregnant again! took me a long time to get my head around it but am getting really excited now.

i keep hearing it's much harder to go from 1 to 2 kids than it is to have more but am planning what help i'm going to get/ask for when baby arrives so i can make the most of the first few months rather than wish them away.

MUM2BLESS · 31/10/2010 19:30

You will be fine.

You will have some routine changes. what are the ages of your other two?

I have four. you kinna learn as you go along. Remember its different with everyone, some find two hard.

I remember giving up work just before no. 2 was born. It was hard at times having a young baby and a very living child to deal with. Years later I am much wiser.

I am now childminding four, taking on a fifh shortly.

All the best and congratulations!!!!!

wheresmytractor · 13/12/2010 21:59

i'm bumping this as i could have written your original post eisbaer. Just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant, have 2 boys (oldest only 2 and 10 months) and am a little scared! We had talked about having another baby but this wasn't really planned. I am so nervous about the work load, the laundry, the mania of it all, with 3 under 4.... Saying that I always imagined having 3 and when my second was born I thought "my middle baby is here" So in many ways a short gap is good as they all grow up together?

Good luck! Any more stories or top tips would be fab x x

nowonthepill · 11/01/2011 16:39

I have 3 under 4. I found out I was preggers again when middle child was just 5months old! Total shock and was dreading it all through pregnancy...but actually it's not that much harder. My eldest boy started school the week after youngest was born, so it's only like having 2 at home. Middle child very easy fortunately. I do have the guilt sometimes as it's hard to give them each enough attention, but then they have each other too, and they love playing together. Tea and bed can be difficult. but I have just learnt to be mega orghanised, frozen dinners, one story for all, etc. Accept that house will be tip too! I never thought I'd say this but I'd actually recommend having them close together! Anyway congratulations and good luck!

Haribojoe · 11/01/2011 20:50

Congratulations!

We welcomed DS3 into the world 18 weeks ago and right at the end of pregnancy I suddenly thought oh my goodness how am I going to manage with 3!

To be completely honest I haven't really noticed much of a difference. Yes things take a bit longer and the housework has slid a little.

I just accept that if we need to leave for school at 8.15 then I need to start rounding everyone up at 8 o'clock etc.

DS3 has on the whole been a super easy baby, so much so that at times it's been a bit unsettling.

I mentioned this to my GP and HV who both said not to underestimate how much more relaxed you are with number 3 and how that affects your baby.

It can't be that bad as I've already thought about when to start TTC number 4!

PoppetUK · 15/01/2011 21:27

Congratulations you all. x

I'm going to be a bit honest here just to offer a thought and also in case others are surfing and contemplating.

As much as getting the kids off to school can be easier it can also be tougher in other ways.

Mine are 6, 5 and 20 months. So it must be easy with two at school, right Well yes and no :) 3 days a week the older two finish at different times so there is hanging about or in and out of the car (not in walking distance) countless times that day. Trust me a toddler isn't impressed with all this sometimes. He was a dream baby to.

Then there is also the homework and finding the individual space etc because that now has to be crammed in at the end of the day.

I'm not saying it isn't all possible and I wouldn't change it but I think the challenges change etc and obviously what one person thinks is tough another thinks it's a breeze. Asking for friends to help with picks up is a really good idea.

Congrats again girls xx

PoppetUK · 15/01/2011 21:29

p.s I think the reason I posted was because my view on parenting has changed as the kids got older and I have had to be more realistic as to what I can and can't do for the family etc

mummysmadhouse · 17/01/2011 20:27

I found 2 to 3 hard to start with (sorry) But i too had three under four so had three had home My dd1 started school when ds(dc3) was 6mth...then it seemed to get a bit easier as now i have 2 at home between 9-3...love having three thought and never would have liked to stick with 2!

We are undecided on a fourth as im bloody knackered

LongStory · 17/01/2011 21:01

if it helps to think of someone more nervous, I'm about to move house with toddler twins (and 3 slightly other ones).... left a half full coke can down for 10 seconds the other day: drenched toddler, late getting out, more laundry, other toddler rearranged the hallway while I was chaning him. Now that's one thing out of place for 10 seconds. Hmmmmm. Very nervous!

thatsnotmymonster · 17/01/2011 21:08

hmm I had 3 under 3 (almost) ds was 3yrs 6wks when dd2 was born. DD2 has been the easiest baby ever and an utter delight but it has been very hard and utterly exhausting!

However, now that they are (nearly) 6, 4.5 and 2.75 and a completely nappy free house, it is wonderful. They interact so well together and we all enjoy the same things. The biggest argument is whether they put Starwars or Dora dvd's on

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