Pregnant with no7!!

[mrsselwyn]

I have recently found out I am pregnant with no7!
we have had to tell the family and some are pleased, whereas my parents are horrified with the news and say its not fair on the other children.Yet again they are disappointed in me!! which hurts me inside.
I can see some of there point, but I do give them as much quality time as i can to each of them and they are very happy children, who have they fair share of arguments.
I am now getting used to the horrid comments when out with the 6 I have already so 1 more wont make any difference.
Does anybody else have this problem with there parents!!

Congratulations, I am at the opposite end of your spectrum, we have an only DD by choice. My DS OTOH has eight. Her choice and her business. My sister's children (oldest 23) are a delightful lot, they are well mannered and appear to be without avarice. Bollocks to what anybody else says. My Mum who is very tolerant and easy going got a gift voucher for my BIL to have a vasectomy after number four came along. Clearly they didn't use it.

If I saw someone out with 7 I'd assume they were a childminder or some were grandchildren.

Hi, so sad that your parents have made a comment like that .
I have 5 children (6th due this Dec), my eldest daughter is severly disabled and one of my son's has autistic spectrum disorder.
I have endured, and still do, more than my fair share of thoughtless and sometimes just rude comments.
My parents are divorced, my Mum is very supportive but my Dad makes comments like your parents, he's even horrified the kids have to share bedrooms !
At the end of the day though anyone who doesn't like it will just have to lump it i'm afraid.

Our children are always clean (well they start the day that way anyway lol), the house is impressively tidy thanks to having purchased massive amounts of storage systems and extra garden shed's etc. Their homework is always done, they do their school reading everyday, they have a hobby each and despite already having a pretty full house they can still have friends for tea and to play.
Mostly though i/we adore each one of our kids and they are growing up into people we are very proud of, and thats the biggest stuff you that you can give to people who make derogatory comments about your choice.

It's a shame your parents can't focus on all the positives but try your best not to let it hurt you and just get on and enjoy your kids and look forward to your new addition (Congratualtions btw) as thats what i'm doing despite anyone elses opinion. Having a baby is a special and exciting time and no one should ruin that for you, take care and best of luck.

I got comments from my parents on announcing no.s 3 & 4!

After a very long gap (15+ years) my mum was absolutely thrilled when we sheepishly announced no.5

Congrats on your news.

it was sad to read some of what you wrote "my parents are horrified with the news ect...... Yet again they are disappointed in me"

You sound like a lovely caring mother, your kids are blessed to have such a wonderful mum. I send a hug to you!!!

Re my parents dad is now passed on, mum would be okay with me having another. Dad was one of thirteen. I am one of seven. I have four children.

Everyone would like their parents approval, but i feel it for you regarding their remarks.

Enjoy your children. Best wishes for no 7!!!!!

I really understand you.

My mum was very happy when I told her I had really bad SPD when pregnant with DD3. She said "well hopefully we won't have a Number 4 then!".

I still don't understand her reactions to this day: they live hundreds of miles away, I never ask for anything, no money, not childcare, nothing.

Did your mum have a bad experience herself?

congrats to you! I, personally, would be a dribbling wreck with so many (am waiting on #3 to arrive any day, and bar any 'accidents' she will be the last!), but how many kids a family has is a personal choice and no-one else's business.

Don't let anyone spoil this special time - babies are a blessing!