Baby number 5?

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Hi

I had my 4th baby 2 months ago to my new partner (its his 1st, my other 3 were with my ex husband who I was with for 15 years).

My other children are 13, 11 and 8. We are talking last night about large families and he said that one day he would like another but he is also happy with being a stepdad to 3 and having the baby we have together.

The question is why do I feel so broody and think one day I would like another?

Logisticaly I have lots of reasons not to have one such as I work full time and other peoples reactions worry me, our house is not huge and its an extra person to clothe, feed etc
Yet I still would love another child and I always wanted a large close family. I am in my 30's and aware of my biological clock.

Am I being silly wanting another and will this broodiness pass??

Many Thanks :o)

I'm waiting for the answer to this question myself! I've got 3 dcs and the last pg was not great - I had bad spd for which I needed quite a lot of help. We've just begun trying for no 4 and I'm quite worried about family reactions!

At the moment I think that 4 is plenty, but I can't get to grips with how people feel they've had 'enough'. I can't ever imagine feeling that I wouldn't want a baby to be mine (you know that feeling you get when you cuddle a newborn?)

So if you ever arrive at an answer then do let me know...

i have 4 aged 12, 10, 3, 2 but lost a daughter who would now have been 5.
like you i had children with my husband the 1st 2, and the other 3 with with my partner now
i faced alot of snyd commentS when i was expecting my last child, but ITS YOUR FAMILY, YOU WORK FULL TIME AND SUPPORT YOUR OWN!!!!hold your head up high, and if you want 5 tell em to get stuffed.
as far as i am concerned, with 4, they all get to school on time, all look smart, are well behaved with manners which is alot more than some parents can say with 2!!

Quite right Gardeningmum05! I am always complimented on the way they are turned out and their behaviour, their appetites and lack of fussiness. Your children are a credit to you and you should be proud of them.

Doesn't help me with other people's attitudes though!

I'm almost you!!
Except somehow I find myself 2 months pregnant with number 5 plus a 4 month old baby.............

My oldest 2 are 14 and 12 (from prev relationship). Then DH and I have an almost7 year old and the baby. Now another one!!

Am still coming to terms with the shock.....

Gardening mum, I am sorry to hear about your daughter, thank you for your advice it is very much appreciated.

Buttonmoon, good luck with getting pregnant, hope it happens soon and that your family is positive :)

Kat, hope the shock is positive. Good luck with your pregnancy

I forgot to add that I am going to keep an open mind about having another, whatever will be will be :)

button..thankyou for your kind comments!i believe children from bigger families learn to be independant and givers rather than takers because lets face it they have to be :)
and i do struggle with other peoples reactions..why after the birth of my youngest do people think they have the right to ask me if my partner will be having the snip!
and how many times have we all heard the comment 'havent you got a tele'
ho ho bloody ho :)

zip, thankyou for your mention of my daughter x

kat..think positive..havent you got a tele (grin)

I totally agree with all your comments. I have 6 children and pregnant with no7!
I have to say my children are very well behaved and learn to share with others alot quicker. Compared to some families with only 2 children!!
I have had all the comments, but you have to put it behind you.
Go For it, its your life not theres!!!

I have 5 children aged 14,10,8 7 & 6. It's hard work but very rewarding. I had 4 in 4 yrs and even now after 6 yrs I get asked if this is it or will we be having any more. It's no one else's business! (for the record he's had the snip so no more yay!)
You do what you want to do and what you're happy with. Don't worry about anybody else as it's nothing to do with them.

Nice to see some names I recognise on here you know who you are

I have 4 and am most definitely finished, SPD plus being old have seen to that. Also I feel like I am at my limit in every way now, 4 is fine for me.

Can see why anyone would want more though and I agree it's your business it's your life and too short to have regrets about not having another baby. Go for it.