Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Larger families

Find out all about large family cars, holidays and more right here.

Help me find a way to survive! (x-post with home ed)

1 reply

NotAnotherBrick · 15/09/2010 15:31

I home educate my four girls aged between 2 and 7. At the moment, some of their behaviour is really, really getting me down. I am getting very overwhelmed by constant moaning at me about one thing or another - not each one of them moaning all the time, but every one moaning a little bit adds up to an awful lot of moaning!

They're not bad children - they're great, in fact, but there are so many of them! I am fed up of breaking up bickering; and of not being listened to when I ask them to stop doing something they shouldn't do; and not being helped with things when I ask for it.

It is getting me down so, so much and I'm not sure what the answer is. I hate saying 'if you keep doing that we will go home' when someone is being annoying at some group or something, because I think the others will get punished to, but today I did; and I followed through with my thread; and I feel awful. WIBU? Or should I be doing more of this and just keep making sure the children who have been good understand why and that I'm really sorry that they are getting their fun spoiled?

FWIW, the one causing a problem was very contrite afterwards...

AIBU to say to them that if they continue not taking me seriously and not working as a co-operative team then I will have to send them to school? I don't want our relationship to become one where they do bugger all and I spend my life yelling at them!

I don't actually think school would be the answer - I'm sure their behaviour wouldn't improve (I'm making them out to be monsters - they're not, but, like I say, four children all misbehaving a little bit is a lot of work for one woman!) - but I would get a loooonnnggg break from it every day and might feel a bit more amenable to dealing with them when they are around.

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Jaybird37 · 15/09/2010 23:20

YANBU to lay down boundaries and follow through on threats.

YABU, very unreasonable in fact, to use school as a threat. Firstly, because it may be a good option for them (and you) at some point, in which case you do not want it to be some terrifying, horrible place to go and secondly because you do not want a decision to go to school to ever feel like your rejection of them.

They may not get the intensive attention at school that they get at home, but on the other hand they will learn a lot about social situations, both with peers and adults (particularly teachers who are not interested in moaning).

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread