Anyone think that 4 is a small family or am I mad!

[rosiecayte]

I was surprised to see that under this topic of 'large families' people are discussing having their 4th or even 3rd child.
Are there many decently sized large families out there?

4 doesn't seem that large to me but then I've got 9 so not surprising I suppose.

My age gaps are:
Dd1-dd2 3y5mo

Dd2-dd3-2y6mo

Dd3-dd4 13 mo

I did have 2 miscarriages between dd1-2 and dd2-3 which is why the gaps are bigger.

I agree, D0G,that small age gaps seem to attract more comments than the number of children.

My age gaps are

ds1-ds2 27 months
ds2-ds3 4 1/2 years (divorce and remarriage in between)
ds3-dd 28months
dd-ds4 36months

none of mine are small age gaps, so it's the number of children that gets commented on. I have a friend who had her 5 children within 7 years, that's hard going.

D0G- the 13 month gap was actually the easiest so far which was bit of a shocker! Dp was so upset when we found oh I was expecting dd4 as he couldn't even remember doing the deed as we were still in the baby fog

I have 5y10m from no1 to no4 so pretty close in age and yes we do get some comments about them all being so close.

I think 4 is the smallest end of large family size.
Its when problems such as cars start to present themselves and people start looking at you in horror.

I would have loved to have had more but 4 was dhs limit due to money and space ( I don't expect as much as him) In fact 3 was his limit due to dds birth but 4 sort of happened

my gaps are
1-2 20 mths
2-3 20mths
3-4 2yrs 8 mths

ds1 is 7 and ds3 is 15 mths.
I am so so broody for another and finding it hard to get past but will have to

I wouldn't consider 4 to be a small family, but it does seem to be becoming more "normal" these days. My eldest is 24 so people used to look at our 4 in horror.

Our gaps are

DD1 to DS1- 18 months
DS1 to DS2- 2 years exactly
DS2 to DS3- 2 years
DS3 to DD2- 15.5 years.

Our eldest was 5.5 when we had the 4th, and 21 when her sister was born

We've got 2 DC and I feel that we're a small family. I'm one of 6 and DH is one of many, many more. We've been discussing DC 3 a great length but I love the '3 is the new 2' idea here and will use it as my final argument for DC 3 :)

I have five, would like a couple more though. The large gap between four and five is because I thought I'd done at four and then had number five which made me broody again.
ds1 to ds2......18months
ds2 to dd1......4yrs 2months
ddi to ds3......21months
ds3 to dd2......8yrs

DC1 was only 3.9 when DC4 was born (no twins) so it is definately the closeness people comment on rather than the number. 4 DCs with bigger gaps would look more usual I think.

I think 1-2 is small, 3-4 medium and 5 plus is large. Anything over 6 is just ridiculous .

i have four and think its a nice number we're nice and even

4+ is large.we have 4 and it feels large but I love it.Would love another but I agree you have to be mad to have 5!!!

i have:

ds1-ds2 2 year 3 month gap
ds2-dd1 3 year 9 month gap
dd1-dd2 11 1/2 month age gap

i found the age gap between the girls by far the easiest as dd1 had only just stopped being a tiny baby when another tiny baby came along. the worst was the gap between the 2 boys as ds1 was horribly jealous of ds2 (and still is)

I have:

DD-DS1 4 year 1 month

DS1-DS2 19 months

DS2-DC4 7 yrs 2months (when DC4 is born in January lol)

I wasn't expecting such a large gap, but have had 3 mc's and lost a baby at almost 20 weeks since DS2, hence the 7 yr gap. I had just about given up on the idea of DC4! I am umming and ahhing about having one more after this, if only so DC4 isn't on his own through primary school/at home, a 7yr ga is just sooooo big. DP isn't convinced yet...but may be soon hahahaha.

DD1 - DD2 4 1/2 years
DD2 - DD3 19 mths
DD3 - DS1 15 mths
DS1 - DS2 13 mths

Between child no2 and child no5 is 4yr and 1 mth.