When did people stop inviting you all round?

[Mung]

I don't consider us to be a 'larger family'. I've just had DC3 and he only takes up a bit of space . we will most likely have one more DC and that is when I'll face being a larger family.

Anyway, I have recently had my first situation where a friend obviously doesn't want us to go and stay. On occasion I have been to visit on a week day afternoon and then left the following day. When I suggested doing this again, she seemed to prefer meeting elsewhere for the day. That's fine and I understand.

Other friends also joked that they needed a big make shift table in their garden to fit us all in.

I just wondered how many children you had before you began to notice that people found it a problem for you to visit. Will 4 DCs make us the family that never gets included in things.

I think that 3 is it, unless they are very well behaved, more than 2dc and people think very twice before inviting you 'round.

I have 2, but a lot of my freinds and familly have 3 or more. I stopped invited 4 or more to parties at my place because that means that dd can't have all her freinds if those siblings come (they usually come as a pack you can't juts invite one of them, why?).
I usually don't invited them for lunch either (too expensive). I offer meet up in the park/picnics outside.
One of my freinds have 3 and hey are very bably behave so I stopped them too coming to my place too much hard work afterward.
Some of the mums I know (mainly my cousin) don't seem to cope well with all their 4 kids and when they come they expect you to look after them (honnestly I find 2 difficult sometime, why would I want to have 6 at the time?)
Don't want to offend anyone some of the mums I know are amazing with 4, I wish I was that good with 2.

what I meant to say before DD2 screamed in her sleep. Is that if your freinds and familly have space and money and your kids are well behave it doesn't matter how much you have.
I also stopped invited a freind who has only one, because her child is so awfull

Thanks for the replies.

I understand that it is expensive to feed us all, but I have never thought twice about inviting friends round with 3 children in the past.

I don't expect invites to parties for all the children either. In fact even with 2, I think they should only be invited to parties for their friend's (a constant battle with the one who is left out though).

I suppose that asking people to look after the children is also worse once there are more of them, but it is possible to leave them with different people. I know my mother struggles with 2 and I will defiitely not be asking her to lok after more.

I tend to find that having four kids is a little bit of a queeze when visiting my father in law or my mum. (staying over night)

I am not sure if its the size of the family or if its the fact that my husband is a brilliant chef why we perhaps do not get so much dinner invites. We do however enjoy inviting family and friends round for dinner and we enjoy entertaining.

We are invited to functions which the kids may not be invited due to limited seating. We have turned down invites before where the kids were not invited as well.

Sorry straying from topic a bit..

I am thinking about not inviting the 3 + to eat because we are tight at the moment. But it wouldn't occur to me if not in a crisis. I never have the space to invite my brother (3 DC) or my SIL or cousins (each 4 DC) to stay over.
But some of my freinds with 4 DC really don't understand if you invite only one of their DC to a party. May be because the kids are quite small? (under 7?)

Oh dear, I never noticed that folks have stopped inviting us round. I thought they were just being thoughtful when they suggested they come to our house instead .

Sometimes its more a question of logistics though, going to my MIL's house is a nightmare as she has so much funiture and 'things' that my 1 year old twins are going to break given a chance. In my house things are either unbreakable or already in the bin.

I have 5 and we are rarely invited all together, but that's mainly because my husband is such a grump!

What I've noticed is old friends will still invite you around maybe not as often but it still happens. Where the difficulty lies is making new friends. My son has just finished reception class. He has made many friends but no invites home. He is the eldest of 4 children and the youngest is only 9 months. To be fair I haven't invited anyone round but I do intend to in the new school year (I've spent the whole academic year adjusting to the new line up).

My children are fairly well behaved but there's just sooo many of them that it looks intimidating. Plus, to throw in the mix we are a black family in a predominantly white area. We are the exception rather than the rule in many peoples eyes. Still a little bit of an unknown entity but that's a whole different topic