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Hosting someone observant

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Thankyouitwasdelicious · 06/12/2025 22:33

Hello, we are a non-Jewish household having a guest to stay, he is observant and I would like to make him as comfortable as possible. He has said he would eat halal meat if that makes life easier for us.

I am planning to buy some kosher meat online (if they will deliver to my obscure postcode) or kosher chicken and make dinner for all of us with that. I have a small separate fridge I can keep his meat in and will make sure there are no milk products in the meal (or his fridge). If I can't get the right meat I'll make something vegetarian. Can he use our plates and cutlery or should I buy new/get disposable ones?

Not sure about breakfast and whether he could have milk/yoghurt if we've eaten meat the night before?

Does this sound appropriate and is there anything else I should really consider?

Many thanks for your advice!

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Confuzzleduzzled · 06/12/2025 22:43

I would ask him. He can’t be that observant if he will eat halal meat. I only eat kosher meat but would eat fish and vegetarian food at a non-Jewish friends house. I would eat on your plates but my very religious family would
insist on plastic/paper even in my house as I’m not as observant as them.
Some observant Jews wait 1, 3 or even 6 hours between eating meat and milk but it would be fine by morning.
I think you need to speak to him as the halal thing is a bit unusual.

Thankyouitwasdelicious · 07/12/2025 22:53

Thank you, I really appreciate that, I will ask him and have options ready. x

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PurpleThistle7 · 08/12/2025 12:36

I agree that it's confusing to agree to eat halal meat if he is observant - my observant family members wouldn't offer that as an option. I grew up keeping kosher though I don't today - plenty of my family still do. My parents and brother have compromised and eat pescatarian at my house and use my dishes. We avoid certain things out of courtesy but our house is in no way kosher. So it's all super personal and it's really best to just ask. I think we'd all know more if it was definitely fully kosher and observant because the halal meat comment threw us off!

It's really kind of you to go to this much effort. Honestly I would think vegetarian (but make sure it's actually vegetarian - my brother won't eat parmesan for example) and having disposable on hand would cover most eventualities, but I don't quite know what to make of the halal meat thing!

Friendlyfart · 11/12/2025 07:38

He can’t be that observant if he will eat halal. Def check in that one. You’d be better off cooking fish (no shellfish) or vegetarian meal.
Alsi check re crockery. My dad would not eat off plates that’d been used for non-kosher meat, but my mum would (so he’d only eat in vegetarian or kosher restaurants/houses).

Thankyouitwasdelicious · 12/12/2025 19:32

Thank you all. I think he does his best to keep kosher outside his own home so if all I can offer is halal, he'll accept it (which I found weird too). If he was really observant I guess he wouldn't eat in my house, let alone stay. Hopefully I won't offend or leave him starving. I am going to try to make latkes as it is Hanukkah!

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