Advice please, Jewish engagement

[KarminaBurana]

I'm not Jewish, but have been invited to the engagement party of a young Jewish couple. Could you please advise me on what gift to take? I don't want to do the wrong thing. Many thanks.

If expecting to be invited to the wedding I wouldn't bother with a gift unless it is a really posh party at a venue. Just give a bit more as wedding prezzie.

Thank you so much. I don't want to do the wrong thing and turn up empty handed. It's at a very posh venue. I am invited to the wedding, so you think I should just give more of a wedding gift?

That's what I would do, but I don;t know the couple concerned. It's very odd in my view to have a posh engagement do unless, for example, the wedding is going to be abroad.

She's the only child of wealthy parents. I think they want to push the boat out, it's a party with food and entertainment. The wedding is in a synagogue in London. I'll just give a wedding gift.

I'd just turn up with a nice Mazel Tov card (you can get lovely personalised ones on Etsy and eBay) and enjoy the night dancing away.

Thank you!

I'd take a gift. You've been invited to a big engagement party. It seems tight not to bring a gift for the engaged couple. This is less about religion and more about good manners.

Yes, that was my thought. Thanks.