Firstly, I know we're privileged to be able to contribute a fair amount into a pension, this isn't a stealth boast post.
DH are I are 45, 2 DC, always contributed something into pensions although for a while it wasn't that much. I'm lucky that I did 10 years in a final salary scheme job so I have that pot but been in a contributory scheme for last 10 years. For a while I put in around 10% of salary and DH the minimum...so 5% ish. We had a bit of a wake up in lockdown when we realised that we weren't really on target for the type of retirement we'd like so we ramped it right up. More than doubled our % contributions. So between us we now put in around £3k a month. Roughly 50/50. Great. But that's obviously had an impact on our spend. We have enough for bills, mortgage etc obviously just not the treats like dining out. We're not lavish people but enjoy holidays which we still do but on a pretty tight budget.
We wonder if maybe we're being a big OTT and we should live a little - we suspect our friends in similar paid jobs don't contribute quite what we do (some nothing..) but don't want to have that money chat.
Where is your balance?