Failed FET

[Hopeistheword]

I've just completed my first IVF cycle, and unfortunately it has failed. It hasnt been straightforward, starting with a fresh cycle, and having to delay transfer 3 months with a frozen 5CB blastocyst. In a way I had my doubts it had been successful, but it is still upsetting to go through the process, and its ups and downs with no positive end result. I feel unsure what to do next, the process has been tough physically and mentally (for my husband especially), morphology issues meant we had to do ICSI rather than standard IVF. We were eligible for 1 funded round, so any further rounds we will have to pay for which can run into thousands of pounds. Part of me wants to try again, but then if it fails again we will also be in debt and without a child. Its a hard choice to make, as there are no guarantees. We both turn 40 next year so time is against us.

@Hopeistheword I'm so sorry it didn't work for you. My first cycle didn't work either and like you I was turning 40 but I went straight onto a second cycle and had my son at 40. But I got 2 cycles free. I had loads of eggs but only 2, 5 day blastocysts. 1 became my son, the other was frozen and failed as a FET. The odds are numerically lower at 39 but it can work and if I'd not tried again, I'd not have my now 8 yr old. My thinking is always how much debt people get into for unnecessary stuff and to just do what needs doing. In your shoes, I'd crack on. There are some plans that offer guarantees (Gaia?)and ivf can be cheaper abroad though more stressful imo. Best of luck.