Hi mumsnet
this is my first time posting so I’m not sure if I’m in the right place.
im 38 (39 in a couple of years) and have been going through IVF for secondary infertility. We had 2 transfers with good grade embryos which both resulted in BFN. We then did a double embryo transfer which resulted in a BFP. Unfortunately this week I was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy during an early scan and had emergency surgery as the pregnancy had ruptured. They also removed my right tube. We have no embryos left from our first retrieval.
im in shock and trying to grieve/process, but most of all I’m so sad about what the future holds. We knew time was not on our side with the ivf and even toyed with doing another egg retrieval before proceeding with our final transfer, to bank more embryos. Is it reasonable to expect I could do another egg retrieval after this surgery? If we wait 3 months it will be around 10 months since our last retrieval and I’m so worried about declining egg quality/numbers at my age. I’m just so worried for the future. Lots of the doctors in the hospital told me not to worry as I could still conceive after tube removal but I don’t think they realised we had already had IVF to get to that point, and a year of TTC naturally before that with never a hint of a BFP.
I guess I’m just hoping for some positive stories of people who are a similar age, or a hand hold. I’m so upset and struggling to process.
this is my first time posting here but I’ve used mumsnet so many times over the years for advice and to look things up. The women on here are so incredible.