Feeling panicky after embryo transfer despite wanting a baby- anyone else?

[Flipper42]

I had my transfer 3 days ago and since then I’ve been feeling a lot of feelings of fear and panic. I had wanted this for so long but now the reality of potentially having a little baby has set in. I hate that I’m even feeling like this. Has anyone else felt similar?

Here with you waiting, 3 days ago!

What specifically is it thay you're feeling panicked about?

I think just the big life change this could possibly (hopefully) be

I am really lucky to have DD who is 4 (ivf to try for our second). It is completely life changing and can be so hard (especially the new born stage), but it's definitely worth it.
I have panicky monent like 'life is good now, why are we trying to change it' but then I calm down. There's a lot of stress and hormones which are probably not helping you.

Yes that’s how I feel, and I don’t really cope well with change but I also know this is what I want

Maybe you could try to think in baby step and don't look too far ahead for now. Baby step one - get through the tww. And then each baby step after that. All going well, you have months to get your head round it.

I felt so 'unready' when I was pregnant with my daughter. I was quite focused on the negatives (like lack of sleep!) and how much our lives would change.

You’re totally allowed to feel both things! That you want a baby and also omg what if I have a baby. I think most people will feel a mix of things (I have!) even though they’ve fought so hard to have a baby.

@Flipper42 I totally feel you I was fine going through ivf even the wait for a test
I got my positive and am now 11 weeks so still early days but now I’ve got thins far it’s major panic setting in
i have had a few transfers most ended in a very early miscarriage now I’ve got past that phase reality it hitting we have an 11 year old and been trying since for a sibling

I do think it’s all the emotional build up of treatment and then when it comes to it it becomes a scary thought of the what ifs and how it will change our life’s, id say all for the better but nerves are perfectly normal
sending positive vibes to you

21 weeks pregnant here with transfer no3 and still have thoughts of OMG this is really happening! It's a lot of overwhelming emotions. Best of luck x