FET / TWW

[OttBott]

Just feeling a little lost. I’m 43 and we’ve just gone through ICSI with eggs retrieved from when I was 37. The 1 embryo that made it was PGTA tested and fine and I seem to have responded well to all the medication in the run up to a FET.

We are now 3 days post FET and I don’t have any symptoms that could be associated with it being positive. Im worried I had a tummy ache two days before and this bloating burning sensation at the top of my stomach which I associated with medication but I’m now worried it was something I ate and I’m concerned I was not 100% on the day and maybe ruined things. All in all I just don’t feel anything and worried it’s not worked.

Im trying to be positive but I can’t see it anymore, I can’t see a baby in my future and I feel like that means I don’t want it enough and universe is saying ‘not for you’. I just feel so lost.

I’m 4dp5dt FET and feel out 😞

This is my third go.
1st - MMC
2nd - BFN

feels never ending

The TWW is so so hard, particularly if there is the pressure of one embryo remaining or previous losses and failed transfers like @PlanBFertility26 (I'm so sorry to hear that), it's torture and I wish we could all just skip it and get to the result and for that result to be positive every time. With a tested embryo you stand a really good chance @OttBott!!! And try to remember that there are no symptoms that point towards a successful or failed transfer, you could have nausea, bloating, cramping, spotting etc and it could all be from the progesterone so symptoms don't mean it's worked and no symptoms doesn't mean it hasn't. Remember how many people had no idea they were pregnant until they missed a couple of periods. You have responded well to medication and even if you ate something funny you were probably in a better place than the famous drink fuelled conceptions we all hear about so don't worry about not being 100% on the day, you haven't ruined anything. And you want it enough, look at everything you have done to get to this point! Whatever happens is not your fault!!! But I know the feeling of the universe looking at everyone who is a parent, no matter how terrible they might be, then looking at me and my husband and going 'nahh this is where I draw the line'. It sucks!!!!!

Its way too early for symptoms. Most actual pregnancy symtoms start at around 6 weeks. Anything usually before that time is progesterone rising. Also at 3dpt the embryo may not have implanted yet. Try to stay in the pupo bubble as long as you can and think back to how excited you were when that embryo was transferred. 3 dpt transfer is way to early to worry about if its worked or not.

Thank you for the pep talk, it’s just hard. Ignorance is sort of bliss but then you really want to know and then you can’t help feeling like it might not be the outcome you want….

Are you planning on testing early?

I didn’t, was too scared and felt I would prefer a conclusive blood test.

had my test on Monday and had an early positive which is great but it’s one hurdle of many. I’m now panicking about every twinge.

How are you getting on @OttBott ?