4dp5dt BFN, feeling sad 😢

[Presently83]

I caved and took a FRER test this afternoon because I felt tired and a bit crampy, and am now devastated that it was totally stark white.

I know it’s still relatively early, but with my daughter I had a faint but clear positive at 9dpo on a cheapie, and 4dp5dt is the equivalent of that. I also had a miscarriage (one of four) a few months ago and I had a very clear positive on a cheapie at 9dpo. And when I look at FET line progressions online I see so many people with day 4 BFPs.

This was our only PGTA embryo after two rounds of IVF and we won’t do anymore (I’m 43), so I’m feeling very down about it.

My transfer wasn’t until 2pm four days ago, do you think that makes a difference in terms of when you might get a BFP?

I’m an idiot for testing so early, I know that, and it could still swing the other way, but I have lost a lot of hope. I just really felt like I usually implant pretty early so should have done by now. But I just don’t feel pregnant. I’m so worried about the thought of being totally out out out. Like almost certainly no more children ever. Being a mum is my favourite thing in the world and now it feels like I won’t get another go at it, and I won’t watch my daughter be the most amazing older sister, and it’s making me so upset.

@Presently83i got my first FAINT line at 8dp5dt, you aren’t out yet x

@pastelheartthank you ♥️ was this on a FRER test or a cheapie? Xx

Defo too early lovely xxx

@Presently83 all the tests! Long story short… at 8dpt I got really poorly, so got an emergency appointment at the fertility clinic and it turned out I had late onset OHSS caused by pregnancy so I did a test at the clinic and it was soooo faint. When I got home I then did all the other tests and they were also super faint. I don’t think I would have had a line before 8dpt x

I’ve always used the cheap ones. It is so early so don’t count yourself out just yet. I’ve had bfn before in the morning of 4dp5dt been heartbroken and then the squintiest line in the evening. I’ve had negative on 4dp5dt then a positive on 5dp5dt. But I’ve also read women getting their first positive days later than this.

If you regret testing and want to stop and keep some hope 4dp5dt is a good time to do that. You’re still early enough that a negative isn’t definitive and could easily be positive in a few more days. That’s not false hope it’s just true.

@Presently83 very early. I would wait until day 8/9 x

I tested every day watching the trigger fade, when it was negative on 5dp5dt I thought that was that, tested the next morning without even looking until I’d had a cup of tea in bed as assumed I was out and it was positive, 6dp5dt

Thank you all 💞 I’ve done another test this morning (5dpt) and still stark white. I feel extremely deflated and like I’m almost certainly out. I know there’s a small tiny minuscule outlier of a chance, but I just don’t think I’m the person who gets that lucky. I just feel so sad that that’s it, that our girl won’t get a little baby sibling and I won’t get to do the baby years all over again.

@aLogLadywas all this testing with a FRER? I know there are amazing stories like yours, I just don’t think I’m that lucky 🥺

I will say that the only time I had a very early positive it was ectopic! No not frer, boots early detection. I know everyone trusts frer but for some reason I don’t.

I know what you mean about the “I won’t be the lucky one”. I’d been ttc 5 years, this was round 5 of ivf and the last before we went to consider donor eggs. I feel extremely lucky and I still can’t believe it. Sadly it’s not all plain sailing and I’m at risk of late loss/very preterm despite a healthy baby so I’m hoping for my luck to hold.

I hope very much for you that you’ll get this pregnancy ♥️

@aLogLadyI’ll be thinking of you and your wee one ❤️ Thank you for your words of encouragement, it’s so hard to hold onto hope in the wake of so much loss and grief, but I’ll try 🤞

Gaaaah bfn at 6dp5dt 😞 I just know in my gut this is it.

We must have had the same transfer date!

I haven’t tested yet, was going to try tomorrow. Try again tomorrow 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Icecreamenthusiast agh good luck! I hope you have more of it than me! Xx

I’m really sorry if this round is over @Presently83 Obviously keep going with meds etc but I’ve had that myself of knowing deep down and while it’s not completely definitive yet, it’s hard to shake. Saw your other post about ttc naturally. I don’t have any advice on that but hopefully others will be along soon. Surely the fact you’ve conceived naturally before is a plus🤞🤞

I don’t know if your clinic offers counselling but that did help me try to wrap my head around things. Lots of luck for whatever’s next.

@Strawberrryfields another bfn today (7dpt) so that’s us out. What an enormous waste of time! Gaaaah!!! Thanks for the love and support ♥️